Traits of a relationship.
Hello all who read this my first thread!
My friends and i used to talk a lot about what compiles to a relationship?
What makes a relationship? holding hands down the street? uncomfortable nights sleeping with hair in your face? looking after one another when sick?
After a very long discussion as we imagined we really could not say what determined one but a few things i learnt and could say was this.
A relationship is equality its about being equal, equal to do that of what the other may do.
A relationship is commitment not 30% not 50% it is 100%, upon waking up every day if you cannot find a reason to commit 100% then why are you choosing her?
A relationship should be sacred if your other half doesnt show you the love and affection through hard times would you go and find it elsewhere as many do? or would you stay there and support them no matter what.
A relatinship is bound to no man, no object no nothing. it is free if you love someone and they love you then you will be together under no circumstance, if a reason arises from one party stating why they cant be with you even with there feelings there love is bound to them and not to you.
Whilst reading these ask yourself has my other half ever done any of these things? have they been afraid of commitment? have they treated you poorly due to hard pastures and never appreciated you and your efforts? have they ever went out five times a week and that one night you wanted to go out with a frend you were scolded?
If the answer is yes then thats not a fair real relationship.
A relationship deserves everything from the two parties including all these aspects its equality, commitment, compassion and affection and nothing less.
You have one major shot at a love life and i ask you all one thing, why would you settle for anything less? you deserve to be someones world and no ones toy and you should never forget it.
'Dum Spiro Spero'
@lewbyyy
Ello Lewbyyy, Obs here! Hope you're doing well.
Appreciate your efforts for compiling and sharing such wonderful thoughts on traits of relationships. Agree with all the traits you put down in the post.
I second your thoughts that you deserve to be someones world and no ones toy and you should never forget it. But sometimes time and situation turns like that and whom you consider your world, can be treating you as their toy.
@ASilentObserver
Hello Obs!
Yes im doing very well thank you, i hope you are too!
I appreciate you having time to read my thread and comment, after reading that Obs you are very very right!
Although the traits may be there and correct the situation and times could completely flip what we perceive and believe, the thought of that is scary but its also something best to keep in your mind, in this world sometimes we just never really know who is truly for us, i suppose thats where we simply have to find out :)
Thank you for your feedback Obs its always highly appreciated and a pleasure to speak with you :)
@lewbyyy Hello! I loved reading your post, and I think you really did a great job on explaining what compiles a relationship and what an individual should not put themselves through. This is something that many individuals tend to forget and/or need to be reminded, especially when we are distracted or going through a tough time. I am very glad that you made this post, and hope to read some more posts by you in the future! :)
@SaimaK
Im really glad you enjoyed the post i did try my utmost best to compile what i personally believed should consist in a relationship!
I strongly agree that people in relationships do tend to forget these things, they get used to this day to day basis in the relationship and the things we first saw we tend to look past them after time or forget all together.
I encourage anyone to wake up everyday and ask yourself 'why am i with this person today?' if you cant find a good enough answer something must be wrong although im sure this would not always be the case.
I agree when times get tough its essential to have someone reminding you how much youre worth becuase like i said ' why would you settle for this?' :)
Thank you for your appreciation and im overjoyed you liked the thread i will continue to post as and when i can :)
@lewbyyy
I think we can't define what a good relationship is 100% because we're all different. We all have different needs, different boundaries, different personalities and wishes/expectations :)
Aside of that everything you wrote here is simply beautiful. Super well written with alot of thought and heart into it. Great thread!
@Booklover95
Hey booklover!!
Exactly your point is a very strong and valid one.
We all have different wants and needs and this applies to us when were in a relationship, what one may want is not what another wants and i guess when reading my traits that i persoanlly wrote and believe, these may not be everyones traits.
Im glad you still enjoyed the post i like to think that everyone could read it and take soemthing away with them, just so they can remember truly how much there worth because we are priceless and no one can tell us different :)
Thanks for your comment i look forward to speaking again very soon!!