ranting cause ughh
I don’t know how or where this will end up going but I’m just so annoyed and frustrated and sad and confused with everything related to relationships … love… intimacy etc and it’s messing a lot with my head… it seems that lately it’s so common for people to be cheating on their partners… emotionally, physically… cheating is cheating and it’s wrong so so wrong …. the worst is when people justify their wrong acts like grow up please and start holding yourself accountable!!
Cheating may be an extreme ok but then it seems like so many people are doing all kinds of weird stuff lately…. being physical casually … I don’t judge when there’s consent involved but what feels weird in some of these situations is when two people are grown enough and mature enough to engage physically but apparently asking for commitment is a lot?? and it’s not “chill” to ask a basic “where do we stand and what do you want in future for us???” like???? Is loyalty a joke nowadays?
what’s with all these stupid terminology benching, situationships, bread crumbing and idk what all is there but like???? What happened to committed relationships…. Long term relationships?? Marriage?? Family - building?? Trust?? Being loyal to your partner??
it’s so sad how easily some people give up their relationships and their love today… there’s more options? options for what??? If you loved somebody thrn why would you even care about the options?
not many want to build relationships and grow with their partners lately…. Everyone wants someone ready made and fit to their box which is insane because hey flash alert people aren’t customisable objects that you can mould as you want …. humans are supposed to be different and like everyone has some kinda baggage you cannot expect perfection….
I feel like a misfit in this generation tbh 😣 bring back handwritten letters…. Bring back trusting people, bring back genuineness and kindness and bring back old school love… bring back LOVE!!! I cannot-
it’s so bizarre and I feel so lost and alone with this… I’ve craved emotional intimacy, have a deep respect for people who actually are committed to their partners and share a healthy relationship … I used to love love… but nowadays this four letter word is tossed around so casually it makes me feel sick and stupid for ever believing in it….. also feeling so scarred with some recent experiences… this rant is ofcourse sponsored by that trauma as well lmao because Urgh why even and how???? could I have been so …. stupid to even think that it could be true and genuine … shouldn’t have ever come out of my shell… it’s a trap out there…. back inside and idk I’ll probably rot here for the rest of my life cause what even are people doing outside ewww😣😣😣
I don’t even like using this word with that spelling…. If you ever see me spelling it as “luv” know that it is intentional!!!
the silliest part is that even while I was typing this I had to keep using some people and sometimes so often so that people don’t get offended 🥲🥲🥲 hope my brain stops thinking about how will others feel for once at least….
again… this isn’t directed at anybody nor is it generalised …. It’s my personal experience and observation and feelings… if you cannot relate I’m genuinely happy for you 😭 if you can … feel free to share your experiences or feelings and ofc I’ll be your rant buddy 🥺 to you know? row this trauma-express boat together?? XD we are sinking but at least we can be together in it.:..:🥺
or idk scroll past if it’s too much … 🥲 but like please please please don’t invalidate my feelings or be rude … I do a great job at being critical for myself already…. seriously!! 💕💕
@Optimisticempath
Made some great points in this sometimes a rant can help others see something they are thinking inside themselves. hopefully many read this and give some real thought to it.
I agree that people thanks to whatever distraction can not seem to commit to building a real and strong relationship. too many say "luv" without really knowing what love is ... it is if people quit maturing and play out high school drama .... over and over.
do not feel stupid if you let your guard down and were hurt ... i believe there are people out there that feel like you do.
@toughTiger6481 thanks for the assurance 🥺 it really sucks to be in my spot so I’d never wish that on anyone but knowing you’re not alone does feel a little lighter 😭 hope we can all heal and feel better together… 😣
@Optimisticempath (offers safe hugs) ❤️ I'm sorry all this happened to you. I have to be honest, I know absolutely nothing about relationships. I thought I knew at least a little but it turns out I don't.
@mytwistedsoul thank you for the hugs Soulfriend… needed all of them!! huggieee back tight🥺💕💕💕💕💕
I see you feel confused and unsure about relationships too… it’s a lot sometimes specially when you’re dealing with your own stuff and then have to consider others too… functioning in this society and all that bs that we’d rather be better off without I guess but idk either… sometimes it’s nice other times just so weird and confusing and hurtful … 🥲
hope we can try to learn a thing or two … 🥹 me here with u💕
@Optimisticempath Dear sweetest you,
I hope your heart knows it's safe, safe surrounded by the gentleness of all of us who care about you so much :) It's okay for love to feel complicated. It's okay to feel like there's not much meaning left in anything these days, because for the most part that's true. The world can be fickle and cruel especially when it comes to love and relationships.
But think of it this way, you exist and you're so beautiful, so full of gratitude, and the desire to make things work, to make people feel loved. And just like you there are many wonderful souls scattered around the world, some hiding, some waiting, some searching. So rare but still very real. Still here.
And sometimes in our lives there comes a moment when the stars cross and everything aligns causing those hearts to collide. Your heart will find its match too and I hope with all my heart that you do and that it feels lasting and true.
Rowing the boat with you ^-^
💙
@BlueDarkAurora me cannot explain how much comfort your words have brought me 🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺 giant much comfort 😭😭 even tho im struggling to stay hopeful about it and trying real hard to shush meanie brain thoughts rn… you always speak so gently that i want to believe you 😭
extremely rare but luv does exist … you are right… you are a reminder for it 💕💕 luv u 🌹🌹🌹
@Optimisticempath :') 💖💖💖
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this is the realest thing ever. im so sick of hearing things like 3 month rule, situationship, lovebombing, casual- it's ridiculous. i feel the same way. im on here tonight bc i finally thought i found someone perfect for me, and i did, but we couldn't make long distance work. he wasn't completely old school like you or i, but he didn't invalidate my feelings or claim we were 'talking' or just 'casual.' but if anything, it's proof that there are some good ones out there. we've got this!
@redShade4461 I feel so heard 🥺 thank you for replying… it means a lot to me that im not alone with this..
sorry it’s been tough for you too :( how are you holding up?
long distance can be difficult to work out but some make it work also…
idk lately it just seems everything’s about intent … people who want to work things … do it or at leats try their very best at it… they don’t see it as an option to let go or not make it work… and when two people want the same thing together … my hopelessly romantic self still somewhere believes that … when two people really really want to… they do… it’s only sad when it comes out that it was more one sided effort or that the effort in the relationship wasn’t balanced…. Because then it’s a struggle and one person cannot be put under the responsibility to carry everything together… it’s a two people thing ..
that’s a good reminder 🥹 may every luverr person get their luvverrrr person who goes to worlds’ ends to make things work out for the rest of their lives… and hope we can become this luverrr person for someone too! 💕💕💕💕
