Advice

@hardworkingTangerine5401

Ah that does sound like a confusing situation, if only people were better at communicating rather than have us overthink or make assumptions and feel lost, right? :/

What do you think about sharing how you feel about the whole situation with him, how his back and forth has left you feeling confused, asking him what's going and if he'd like to stay in contact etc?

I’m sorry for your experience. It sounds like to me that the guy is sending mixed signal whether intentional or not. I can feel your frustration, why do we have to be in a relationship when we cannot connect right? But to me, the best solution for this is to express your needs to your partner. Tell him how you feel about this, are you sad? Frustrated? Why did you feel that way? What can he do to help meet your needs? Can you both find places to compromise?

Might be that he’s busy with the move as well, if you can wait maybe you could try contacting him more when he settles? If not, ask him if he could spare you some time. I’m also a firm believer that if a person is interested you they’d make time to connect with you even with just a text or a quick call. They’d also think of your needs as something important so they will try to meet it.

In the end it really boils down to wether our needs are met and if we are loved the way we want to, otherwise, it just means that you’re both incompatible and if you continue, it will be an excruciating path ahead. Most people leave by this point, but ultimately the decision is yours to make if you still want to keep feeling what you’re feeling now or would you rather take a big hurt and find something less stressful. Regardless, do remember that whichever choice you take, usually they need time to consider and to do, so take it slow and feel things out. Don’t stress it, what’s meant for you will find a way to you.

Sending love and best of luck!