Advice on Hurting SO’s
So a few months ago I cheated on my previous girlfriend with another girl and then we started dating. This past weekend, I cheated on her with my ex and I just feel like an emotional wreck because I have no clear idea where to go from here and I feel like such a terrible person for putting the both of them through this and it has been completely eating me up inside knowing how much hurt I’ve brought to these 2 people. I broke up with the current girlfriend completely out of guilt and shame and love both of them, and both have said they would take me back. I just don’t know who to choose or what to do other than take some time away from both of them
Hello @raspberrySea6363 , I commend you for taking this brave step to share and seek support for yourself !
Sounds like you're experiencing some conflicting emotions ! The fact that you it is bothering you shows how much you care about either of them, and do not want to hurt them more, emotionally !
Sometimes confusion , indecisiveness do come into play and we may regret some of our past decisions/ actions , especially when it comes to actions that have hurt people we feel close to !
It seems you are considering to take a step back and have some space from both of them , I personally feel space ~ can do lots of good sometimes, when we are feeling too emotional , overwhelmed or when our mind isn't at peace ~ some some personal space , engaging in self care and taking the time to think through what we want and assessing our needs, situations ,along with the present and future considerations, can be quite helpful!
I hope taking this space makes you feel lighter and calmer ! Sending good wishes, take care please 😊
Be honest with the both of them, tell them you cheated on both of them. Then take some time to yourself, alone. Think about why, which women makes you happier. When the time is over, you'll.be able to make your choice.