Bf has seemed careless for weeks and hasn’t tried until he realized he might lose me
Hey, so I love my boyfriend and I’m a very attached person. For weeks he’s had no energy to try for us and has been a bit careless. Sure he’s shown it in small ways but it’s been the bare minimum (not even). I’ve always tried and tried. We started arguing so much and then one day i told him im not anymore until he starts. He basically admitted he doesn’t have the energy to and there’s a lot going on his life and gave himself pity. This really hurt me because he also mentioned he doesn’t want to hurt me so I could leave if I wanted. He was so willing to give up. But today he realized it might be too late and apologized and wanted to talk. He did admit what he did wrong and is committed to fixing himself and working on it and did sound genuine to some extent, but all of my friends are saying I should leave him. I feel in my heart I want to trust him again but it’s so hard, especially because he just now realized. What should I do?
@Selbearr Hey there! It sounds like you're in a tough spot, and I'm sorry to hear that you're going through this. First and foremost, it's important to prioritize your own emotional well-being and set boundaries that make you feel safe and respected in your relationship. If your boyfriend's behavior has been causing you stress and hurt, it's understandable that you feel hesitant to trust him again.
That being said, it's positive that he's acknowledged his mistakes and expressed a willingness to work on himself and your relationship. It may be helpful to have an open and honest conversation with him about your concerns and expectations moving forward. Communication is key in any relationship, and being transparent about your needs and boundaries can help rebuild trust. Remember, it's okay to take time to reflect and process your emotions before making any decisions. I wish you the best of luck and hope everything works out for the best!
@cindyzheng1344 thank you so much, this is honestly the most logical answer I’ve gotten from anyone. I think that’s what I’m going to do because I don’t wanna just up and leave especially when both of us had such a soul connection. Thank you so much for the help!!
I feel like we are on the opposite side of the spectrum here. My husband keeps on demanding soo much from me...more time more attention to the extent that I feel i can't stand him anymore. To be honest..i will even admit that I might hate him alittle bit. I just want to be left alone for some time. We are two separate individuals.. no need to be joined at the hip 24/7.
Hey squizzy, i understand how your feeling and you have the right to want some alone time. I think you should talk to him about this and how its making you feel. Im sure he doesn’t mean to bother you and from the more time more attention it seems like hes been feeling lonely.
