Dependant on my bf
I lived with my boyfriend for almost a year and now forced to live separately due to circumstances. Whenever we are apart, i feel so anxious that he will leave me even after spending the whole day together. I feel so toxic that when i see him online but doesnt text me, and when i send a text, i count how long he takes to respond and during that time i overthink even though i know he is busy working and have other ppl in his life. However for me, i dont have my own clique of friends anymore and i get jealous when i see him texting in his groupchat. And when he tells me he has plans to hangout with i do get jealous he has a life outside of me. I just cant help it, hes been there for me at my lowest and i clung onto him for everything. Which is so toxic for the both of us. I try very hard to not do what im doing but i cant help it especially now that we live apart. I just spend my days overthinking about him. This is not healthy for me and my relationship and im trying so hard not to do it.
@BeengBonk
I'm sorry to hear. It's good that you realise that this is unhealthy. Perhaps try taking up a new hobby? One that involves other people, so you can perhaps make some friends independently of him. Maybe a new sport?
You all just started living separately so this is only natural. When I was separated from my partner due to reasons outside of our control I was way more anxious and that dependency and attachment anxiety. You will find coping mechanisms and with time it will make you stronger. To be honest it will strengthen your relationship so that in the future you all continue together and are under the same roof again, you won’t feel as dependent and needy toward him. It will make your relationship stronger in the end!