He told me I love you on day 2
I am looking for an arranged marriage where I talk to him first to know him, he after day two started sending me GPT chats about how he fell in love with me after two days and throwing hints that "She is cute", that guy freaked me out at that point, I don’t know you nor do you and I felt pressured to love him back because he started nagging when I get sick or don't respond quickly he will panic then tell me he went to GPT chat to calm him down.
I was attracted to him, he is the best on paper but he is anxiously attached to me and that triggered by avoidant attachment style!
What should I do? How can I open up to him again?
@funnyCranberry1513
Hmmm.... falling in love in 2 days sounds like obsession not love.. I could absolutely be wrong but this is just a opinion..
I hope whatever you desire to do it's probably the right thing to do. 🌲
@AsherTree he told me if he fall in love, he is like the girl in the movie Obsession
@funnyCranberry1513
Umm.. that is kind is kind of bizarre.. I hope you know what your doing..🌲
It can be hard to open back up to someone after feeling pressured and feeling freaked out. I see you are seeking an arranged marriage and this is someone that you are hoping to spend the rest of your life with. Feeling respected, comfortable, and safe is important. There are times you will be sick or unable to reply quickly and that is okay, you still need to take care of yourself ♥️ make the decision that feels right for you. If you are wanting to give it another go, maybe you can let him know that you are wanting to take things slow and get to know him. Maybe also explaining any boundaries if you have them, and gently letting him know how you are feeling about things ♥️
@hopefulcoco that's my problem, I wanna talk and explain my boundaries and yes I got sick and he still demanded me to at least tell him I am alive because he will panic T_T
I don't know how to explain my boundaries to someone who is a good husband but I can't seem to open up to him.
@funnyCranberry1513
When you think about communicating those boundaries with him, what feels like the hardest part for you right now?
@hopefulcoco
How he would respond emotionally to it. He is anxiously attached to me. Anything I say will scare him "that I don't want him" which is true now but when he throw it at my face before it was not
I see, it could help to think about the concersations you've had thus far and see if he is open to talking to you about things. Maybe you can write down a list of things you'd want to discuss or any of the boundaries you want to set and have a conversation about it. I see you are also saying you do not want him now, and if you are feeling that way even with him being a good partner on paper that can be something to also think about. The choice is ultimately yours and remember your happiness and comfort is important ♥️ wishing you luck if you do decide to talk to him and be open about how it has been making you feel ✨️
It’s kinda weird that he already said “I love you” after only two days. Either he’s rushing into things because he’s already thinking about marriage, or he’s in that honeymoon phase where he’s super excited and becoming a little obsessed with you. Either way, I feel like he’s coming on way too strong and it might be a little overwhelming.
I think you should communicate with him and let him know how you’re feeling. Tell him you like getting to know him, but you’d feel more comfortable if you both slowed things down a little and let things develop naturally. He needs to calm down and give you some space to actually get to know each other.
@RaisinsRGrapes It will be eye opening, how he responds because a mature well adjusted person will apologise and say...
Oops sorry I got carried away. You just appeal to me and tick my boxes but you're right, getting to know you and building a strong connection is my goal too.
A thing to remember, is those that fall quickly, also fall out of feelings quickly too.
You want consistency, longevity, honesty and respect, someone approachable you can share your honest thoughts with and have them listen and take it on board, respectfully.
It's about compromise and communication.
