Narcissist and i might be married to one

Hi I have been told by my wife that I am a narcissist. I didn't know exactly what a narcissist is. It is only thru my wife that I see what she is talking about. I have asked my last therapist if I was a narcissist and she did not think that I was but here I am I have un resolved arguments wife my wife . Because she believes me to be a narcissist a covert one at that. She has learned the terminology thru a you tube pod caster by the name of Durvasu Ramani. An expert on narcissist behaviors and their dangers and tell tale signs. I can see the things that my wife is posting our to me but she will not see the abuse that I am being put thru by her. If I talk I am lying,manipulating, or twisting lo gic. We cannot get through a weekend with out fighting and me walking out to not be in a fight . Which is where I am fight now. I walked out because she insisted on my reconciling the monthly expenses and when I found holes and started to talk about it she kept interrupting and asking when was I going to come to the plate with the answers. And there it starts. I pretty sure I'm being baited but I cannot have conversation with her unless it is approved her. Anyway this is mor healthy I cannot talk with her for these reason it affect my sleep which affects me at work. We have our financial problems we doing our best to work thru but we are not getting there any more over the past few months. I am always the bad guy and am treated like a lier, a theif, a sexual perverted man and and sub human being.