New start?
Hello all, about 6 months ago me and my bf of 5 years had broke up for 2 weeks because our relationship was very toxic. During those 2 weeks we didn't talk at all. When I came back home him and I sat down and talked things through and decided to get back together if there was change, not to go down the same toxic road we had went down.
After 2 weeks of us being back together it was great, until I found out that he had been asking for nudes from other women on Reddit, Kik, and even adding them on Snapchat to try to get nudes. I confronted him about it and he told me the truth, which I really appreciated but it didn't change the way I felt since he had told me before we broke up that I wasnt good enough or attractive enough to him. A week later I found that he had taken pictures and videos of himself in very sexual manors to send to them if he had received a nude he was so desperately wanting.
It's been 6 months since then but I still feel like he's hiding things, and I can't trust anything that he tells me, I feel like I have to constantly ask him for the truth. Idk what to do
I’m very sorry to hear that, I can’t tell from your post if the seeking other women was during your break up or before/after you got back together but regardless it still hurts!
Once your trust has been broken it’s difficult to get back to a place where it’s whole again. 5 years is a long time, have you two considered couples counseling at all?
If you two are serious about continuing your relationship and you’re still not able to trust him it might be the only way to be able to move forward. I tried forgiving my daughter’s father for cheating on me without intervention but I never could and ultimately it never worked out, I still to this day have trust issues even in a healthy relationship so even if you don’t get couples therapy I would recommend individual therapy where you might be able to establish healthy ways to cope.
He was trying to get the nudes when we got back together, he said he just wanted a picture and there wasn't any sexual intent for it. But him telling me it was just to get a picture doesn't make any sense to me. I just feel as if he actually loves me why he even risked our relationship over a picture that he was desperately wanting. I just don't understand.