Nudes
My boyfriend and I have been dating for 5 years, we were both our firsts relationships. Weve lived together for a while now. Last night I saw that he was texting other women and asking for nudes from them. When I asked him about it he tried to play dumb and said he didn't know where those texts came from, and that he wasn't gonna do anything to their nudes if he got them. I asked him why he wanted the nudes in the first place and he said he "just wanted them" he also said that he doesn't consider that cheating but I think if you ask anyone that is cheating. I just don't know what to do.
@intelligentAvocado8214 that does seem inappropriate and I understand if you would be confused and even annoyed at him considering his response. I can't tell you what to do but I am sending best wishes! :)
It's sounds like his natural curiosity is getting the better of him and he's making bad choices. I can understand that if you both have not been with others there will be an element of thinking of missing out on others. 5 years is a long relationship and if he's showing signs of thinking the grass is greener I think you need consider where your relationship is going. By contacting women and texting and getting caught by you could be his clumsy way of wanting to tell you that he wants something else. Think really hard what you want from a relationship, are you getting that? Sit down with him and have a grown up conversation and ask him what he wants.. Don't let him fob you off, both be honest. Honestly don't waste more time than you have to on a man who is tempted by others, you deserve better and let him go and you move on.
Talking like adults is easier said then done, especially with him. We had an issue like this earlier in the relationship as well and he just kept lying or becoming angry whenever we would try to talk about it. He also said some thing's that really deeply hurt me and continued to do so for years. We actually broke up because of that for a month. And had just recently got back together to have a clean slate and he does this with the nudes.
Can I ask did he make the first move to get back together? If he did He obviously is not making an effort with this relationship now. How did you feel when you were free during the break up.....? I've wasted so much time on the wrong man, please don't do the same.
When we were apart all I was thinking was wanting to be with him. We broke up because of past simulator issues. After the month period we talked and decided to have a clean slate, a new beginning, a fresh start so we got back together, and that's when he started with the nudes. We've only been back together for 2 weeks.
You arent alone. My boyfriend and i have been together for 4 years.. we have a 7 month old baby.. I recently found out that he was sexting other women my entire pregnancy... he said the same thing he doesnt know why he wanted the nudes & said its not cheating.. my thing is, if it were us received naked pictures from other men id be an entirely different story
I was in the same situation in a past relationship in which I found out my boyfriend had been sexting other women. He also felt that it wasn't cheating, but to me it is. Fast forward a few months later.....he began physically cheating on me with other women. I'm not saying your boyfriend will do that, but this is now a huge red flag for me.
I hope you are able to resolve this in a way that makes you happy. Good luck with everything!
I had a similar situation. But my boyfriend was watching celeb nudes on MrSkin. He signed up and got access to the content of nude celeb pictures. At first, I was confused and worried but then he explained to me that it doesn't mean anything to him. We even have found a way how to make our sex life more interesting with the help of nudes and etc. But of course situations are different