Should I give my relationship a chance? Help.

Hey y’all. I’ve spent the past 5 days alone, sad, and overthinking. I recently broke things off with my boyfriend, we had been dating for one month. He’s what can only be defined as extremely clingy, and I was desperate and overwhelmed and I felt like the relationship was taking a toll on my mental health. But it was a good relationship, with chemistry and genuine feelings and love. He supported me in everything, listened to me, paid attention, was attentive, caring, and loving. But I became idealized in his head from the very first date. In fact, we made it official after one week, and I tried to keep up with his pace because it was all so good, and he was good to me. I know now I should’ve listened to my own feelings and gut, and assert when I needed my space, but I didn’t do it enough.

The second issue is that there are several imbalances in our relationship. He is absolutely infatuated and in love with me, and I do like him and love him, but I think I am able to see him for what he is. He puts me on a pedestal too much and I’ve become a necessity to him, whereas I can also focus on my own life and myself. He tells me things like “i missed you so much I was physically weak” when we hadn’t seen each inter for only two days!! And I couldn’t reciprocate that obsession even though I do like spending time with him. He was also always saying how I was too good for him, that he’s ugly and awkward and at some points I started to believe it. He in fact is very socially awkward and made me uncomfortable at some points when hanging out with my friends. I have a lot more stuff going on for myself than he does: I work, I have several extracurriculars and two majors, more interests, hobbies, and taste than he does. I wish he would focus more on himself because he comes across as not ambitious enough, and I often feel like I actually deserve a man who is sure of himself, more mature, confident, and ambitious, who has a life that goes beyond just having a girlfriend. Often I’ve resented this and even caught myself being cruel and condescending with him. I don’t want to be because he doesn’t deserve it!

I think he’s just emotionally immature, but he can make me happy and makes an effort to know me. I feel like I have a more secure attachment and I don’t know if I can change his or if it’s even fair to ask him to change.

Should I give my relationship a second chance? I’ve been thinking of asking him to start over, not labeling anything, giving each other a chance to actually get to know one another, seeing each other less and in private. Is this fair? Do you think it’s worth giving this a chance or there’s just too many imbalances here? Should I ask him to just be friends? I think it’s going to take me a long time to get over him if I do because I have a lot of affection for him, he’s a good person, and I really enjoy spending time with him. Should I stop overthinking it and rationalizing it so much and just enjoy it? I’m 20, he’s 21. Help!