Thinking my partner is cheating.
I keep having days where I think I am not enough for my partner and that she is going somewhere else for her fun. We had a really healthy sex life up to when our baby was born now she will not even come anywhere near me. Make me feel like she wants someone else or is already having the fun somewhere else. I no this is not normal and I hate feeling this way. Advice needed thanks
Hi @pluckyTurtle9644
Congrats on being a dad!
I understand it's most likely confusing for men... but women's mood may lower after delivery + the baby blues (if recent) + the stress for having new born. There's also what it's called Postpartum Depression. Please check out here and see if she has the signs.
Thank you for leaving your feed back is much appreciated. Thank you for the congrats. I have looked through the link that you sent and was very helpful but the only signs she has is lower libido really. She is totally fine in her self. She is the exact person she was before baby arrival. But like I said the only thing not there is anything romantic from her and she pushes it all aside when we speak about it so I am at a dead end. She knows how I am feeling and what my thoughts are and she just says your been stupid or the more you say it the more I want to. Is that just me pushing her to doing it or is it something else advice would be good thanks
@pluckyTurtle9644
Your wife isn't likely cheating. She is adjusting, just as you are, to your newest family addition!
I'd suggest that before you make such an accusation of cheating that you ensure that you have evidence or proof other than her lowered libido and lack of sexual interest in you. I say this because making such an accusation can make your situation with her quite worse because it is calling her character and integrity into question, so hopefully, you've kept that to yourself. I know it's a confusing time with the new baby, home life is different, you're both going to go through a lot of changes in the next few months and that happens to a LOT of couples. The good news is that things are going to get better. It's a huge life adjustment and a lot of stress. Stress can impact libido for men AND women.
You should know that low libido and lack of sex drive is a perfectly normal post-giving birth for women. In fact, take a look at this site, which has scientifically-backed studies that demonstrate and show that it's only temporary.
