advice pls ):

Hi. I’m new to 7 cups and it’s been great so far. I’ve been having relationships issues so i thought i’d create a thread here. My boyfriend and I met in October of 2020, but we didn’t start dating until roughly middle of Jan, February. He was a very nice person in the beginning, and still is sometimes. but things are just different. he would try so hard in the beginning and doesn’t at all anymore!! it makes me feel like he created that “personality” just so i would date him and this is who he truly is now. There has been countless of times where he calls me toxic, tells me i’m gaslighting him, or i’m controlling and i don’t see how and it upsets me and makes me think i’m crazy and makes me question if i really am being toxic. i will share something that happened so you guys can get get a point of view. One time, he asked me to come over and it was really late and i was already in bed and i said “it is literally 10pm” (it was like 9:50 but i was just rounding up the time) and he responded “it’s like you’re gaslighting me it isn’t 10pm” and it’s upsetting he is using those words when gaslighting is a serious thing. and it just doesn’t seem like i was doing that. A couple days ago i was at work and he texted me saying he was at walmart and i responded, almost 3 hrs go by and he said “home from walmart” and i made a funny comment saying, “didn’t know it took 3 hrs to go to walmart” and he said “you’re timing how long i shop for? that’s controlling” but i didn’t mean to make it seem like that. i wasn’t timing him, i just looked at our last message and it said the time. there’s a lot of times where he will call me names and i don’t see how i’m so toxic and whatever. I communicate things that bother me and he doesn’t seem to care. I communicated with him i really appreciate the little things, like “goodmorning” and “good nights” and “i love you” and NOT “love you” and he doesn’t seem to care about those. He told me i was controlling the way he acts and speaks. I have nobody to talk about this stuff with, literally no one. So i could use some advice. He is really mean when he is mad and I tell him i don’t like that and it never changes. the last time we got in an argument, he told me “you’re not smart enough to have this discussion” I would write more but i have already wrote a lot lol. I am 20 and he is 30….. at first i never saw an issue with the age gap, but now i see stuff online and it makes me question, and sometimes he just talks however to me and idk if he thinks he can because he’s older or what… he is a nice person, but after all these issues that have gone on in our relationship, it makes me wonder if this is acceptable or not.