is there hope
basically ive been with him for 3 years. we knew we wanted to marry each other within the 1st yr of dating. everything seemed perfect but this yr things have become concerning.around start of feb he almost broke up with me but i convincsd him to think abt it for a dsy n decide.
the reason of breakup was surprising for me basically
i never realized but ive been v controlling like being uncomfortable with his closeness with his female friends, insecurity that he likes his friends more than me, getting annoyed abt him being late etc. but he always encouraged me to speak my mind n not hold back when im uncomfortable so i did. moreover im introverted n hes social so he does his extroverted energetic things wirh friends. even when i tell him i can still try he wont let me.
he deciddd to stay but said that hes not sure at all abt oyr futire but wants to stay with me cuz he still loves me n might regret it. ive started therapy and we ve been doing better. i asked him what he thought abt our fututr n he said theres 20% chamce now whereas at start of feb there was nond so some improvement . we also havs tp do ldr after july so how bad do u think things are rn
honestly its confusing bcz a week beforr he tried breaking up , he told me hes 99% sure of uz and suddenly after during the breakup he jumped to 0. for context he didnt wanna be intimate with me bcz he said it didnt feel right bcz of our proboens and i ended up crying for 2 hours (bcz i was guilty i ruined my relationship) and then he wanfed to breakup. No one goes from 100 to 0 over this imo. i feel like if i continue like im rn he might jump from 20 to 80 before we start ldr but what do u think
@sincereComputer45
I think you hit the nail on the head the items that led to break up IMO are not 100% to 0% items...
Maybe those were poor choice of words or explaining how he feels but i think it is an insult
I also feel anyone who is saying things like we are at 20 % or whatever are trying to manipulate you into conforming to raise your Grade........... That is insane a relationship is a partnership not something you need to try to achieve a passing grade in the others eyes......
i see. so itshopeless to try? even though our last 2 yrs were great
@sincereComputer45
I think many times people try to save something because they have invested X amount of time in it.
while it may have been fun and great moments ..........
example think of other items in life ......you get a job for 2 years it is good then something changes ... do you stay cause you have had some good times ...........
some stay cause changing is hard ........having to reevaluate what you want ...... in the end it is your choice but will it be easier after 3 years- 4 years?