"Friends" broke their promise to me
Last year I trained a group of people with disabilities to become better self-advocates and we appeared to be getting on and becoming friends with three of them We were beginning to get together but the communication suddently seemed to stop. Unless, they called me with updates of their success stories and otherwise had little time to talk to me.
Twice, I invited them to my things and twice they said they were coming to my gatherings but bailed due to some last minute situation,.
This weekend they said they were going to come to my gathering for my birthday and all three came up with excuses
1. One said that she had to work which I know was a lie because they work at the IRS and my gathering is on a sunday
2. The other two said they there are medical issues in their families and seemed to text me at the same time
However, one of them didn't seem like she really wanted to be there because when I sent out the invitation, she kept asking me if certain people would be there.
@Summershy I am sorry to hear it. It is upsetting. We all are with you to support here. Feel free to connect and share your thoughts. I hope you would like to do daily checkin with us -- https://www.7cups.com/forum/RelationshipSupport_66/CheckinsThread_1452/
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@ASilentObserver thank you for reply and I caught one of them in a lie and she just stopped responded, while asking another, who said he would make it up to me about doing a movie with me, I asked if next weekend would be better for him but he didn't respond. So I responded two ways
1. I wrote them and told them that they hurt my feelings by not being honest with me and jerking me around
2. I did some mindfulness and really I don't think I am losing that much beause
A. They really were not calling me or inviting me to anything unless it was convenient
B. We are on different wave lengths
1. They are people with disabilities who want to work and live in the community and then two of them are a lot older than I am.
2. I want to work and live in the community but want an education and a full career - yes I have a disability
@Summershy I have an update, though I set boundaries with him and cut him from my life and thought I had blocked his text messages, this guy has the nerve to attack me via text last night. He boasted about getting together with another friend of his who I am also acquainted with, he said that the both of them got together and kept joking about what a loser I am.