I've done something terrible...
Hello everyone,this is going to be long but please dont judge before reading...
I started a new job 2 months ago and became a really good friend (i thought) with one of the guys that works there. We started hanging out after work and he shared with me how much he loved his girlfriend,how he wants to marry her one day,and they are still pretty young,so i thought it must be a really special relationship. One day after work (we work in a restaurant ,so it was pretty late) we were alone and getting ready to close. He came to me,he basically forced himself on me and told me how he wanted me since the first time we saw each other,that i was so beautiful and knew i wanted him too. I was so shocked,i cant even describe how i felt. I told him that he's out of his mind,that I wouldnt do it when he has a girlfriend,and he said that he is thinking about breaking up with her (which i didnt believe) so i kept telling him to leave me alone but he wouldnt let me,and after about 2 hours of him forcing it,i finally gave up and let him do it. I felt so so so awful and the next day his gf came to see him at work and i went up to the bathroom and started crying. After that he asked me "when are we gonna stay late again"because he wanted to do it again,and just have fun...yeah,i found him attractvie and liked him but i would never ever think about doing something to ruin their relationship,and i dont even know how he manages to look her in the eye,when even i cant. I would sort of understand if he was drunk and knew it was a mistake,but he wants to do it again? I really dont understand how can you love someone and want to marry her,and just cheat like that and even want to do it again...
I know that it is my fault as well but i just had to let it out somewhere...
@HopelesslyXHopeful
Hey there. 
First of all, thank you for sharing it with us. I am so so sorry it happened to you. I am worried how you are holding up after it. And I can understand why you feel guilty about it and the guy doesnt seem like a nice person. What do you think you want to do about it now? Will telling his girlfriend be an option?
@HopelesslyXHopeful
I understand your situation very well. I have been married for 5 years, but we've been together for 7 totally. We have an auto shop together, but he rents out the other side to an auto detailing business that started 1 year ago. Over a year I have become very attracted to the owner of that business, as my marriage is slowly falling apart. Now it has come to the point where I sometimes talk to the guy on FB or when he comes to me to pay the rent, we have long conversations. I think my husband loves his 12 pack of Miller Lite more than me anyway! I know what physical attraction can do to a person even if they are involved w/someone else. Maybe his girlfriend is no longer fulfilling him emotionally? That is one attribute of my husband that has faulted over a year ago. No more feelings, just work and beer. :( There's always a reason someone cheats and looks elsewhere. Though it is wrong, we all need love emotionally. Then some feel guilty. It is wrong. But on both parts. Not just you.
Thank you for the answers! I cant tell his girlfriend because we live in a very small town and we all know each other and if she finds out then the whole town will,including my family and friends...
And i understand that sometimes there is something missing in a relationship,its normal but it really seems like he loves her because they are together every day,and he said that he loves her himself,but why would you cheat then? Even want to do it more than once,not realizing it is a big mistake..Didnt think its possible to love someone and cheat at the same time
@HopelesslyXHopeful
If he claims that he loves her then he probably is lying to either himself or her. You don't love a person and then cheat them. I would have given him a befits of doubt if he was guilty about the whole episode. But here he is shamelessly asking to do it again. This means he is really bored of his gf but do not have the guts to say that to her. I would suggest you to stay away from this person.
@Suzen6898 I agree,we have the same way of thinking. And I wish i could stay away from him but we work together so its hard,the only thing i thought to do was being cold with him and hope that he leaves me alone.
New perspective. I've been in a relationship before where I have cheated. 2 actually. I'm not proud to admit it, but just wanted to give you a perspective from the other side. He is probably telling the truth that he loves his girllfriend- especially if they have been together a while. But in some cases in a relationship that just not enough. And maybe he hasn't realized it yet. I'm not saying that what he's doing is right, but maybe he is scared or for some reason unable to break up with her right now. I know in my cases, both times the relationship was already falling apart, I was just realizing that parts of the relationships I was in were not enough anymore for what I needed. And I am a chicken as I like to say and it was easier to have someone break up with me for behaving this way then it was for me to do it myself. So I have no idea what kind of situation he is in, but do not blame yourself for what has happened. I wish you the best of luck going forward with whatever happens.