Not sure if a friend wants more.
Back in November I met a guy on grindr. He was 18 and I was 21 (now were 19 and 22) and we went to the same college. We hooked up, started hanging out without sex, he ended up moving in at the beginning of 2nd semester in January and we became roommates and friends with benefits. But since college ended in March due to COVID, we stopped mainly because the only time we hangout is in my car. But he went to my lake house with me in June and he asked to do it again and I said yes. And that was the last time we did anything as well as the last opportunity we had to do anything.
But for the past couple months now, weve been talking every night for 2-5 hours and hanging out in my car once a week. We live 50 miles away from eachother and due to the age difference hes hesitant for me to meet his family so we really just drive around and talk for an hour or two. But when we talk hes just been way nicer and wanting to stay on talking for hours. Mostly we both talk using our PS4s and watch movies and such. Due to our history of beings friends with benefits, its complicated. Plus add in the fact that we are 2 closeted bi guys more so on the straight side of the bi spectrum. How do I know if he wants to be more than friends? Either a friends with benefits or wanting a relationship?
Hi there! It sounds as if you're hoping this relationship will develop further, but you're not sure what he wants. Of course, you know your situation best, and I know you're more than capable of making the right choice for yourself, but there are a couple of options you can explore. You could simply be honest with him about how you hope this relationship can develop, and adjust your own expectations accordingly, or you could also take things one step at a time, and just enjoy your relationship for what it is right now. Either way, it sounds like what you two have going makes both of you happy, and that's what matters most.
Hope this helps! Have fun, stay postive, and have a great day.
@CollegeGuy54 Hey, thanks for sharing. It sounds like you have feelings for your friend? He seems to enjoy spending a lot of time with you but it's also understandable if neither of you has experience dating guys. I think you might be hesitant to talk to him about your feelings because you also value the friendship and don't want to lose him as a friend. But is the friendship equal in value to you as a romantic relationship with him? Or would it be settling for something safe? You might get rejected and it might all be disappointing, but you never really know what someone will say if you just tell them you care about them as more than just a friend. Sometimes you have to avoid risks to stay alive. But sometimes you have to take risks to feel alive. You're not alone. I'm in a similar situation with my friend. I hope that whatever you decide to do, it works out in the end. I'm rooting for you!