Should I cut off my friend?
So Ive been friends with this girl for almost 6 years now, and lately Ive just been getting a bad vibe from her. When we talk we only talk about her and her problems. Every time I try to change the subject she basically just ignores it and changes it back to her.
She recently lost her virginity (which is all she talks about now), and I feel like she kind of bashes me for still being a virgin. She doesnt say anything directly but I can sense it in her tone,
kind of get the sense that she looks down on me and thinks shes better than me just because she has all these boys and is having sex.
She thinks that I live this boring life and that shes my best friends. She is not my best friend at all, barely a close friend. She doesnt know anything about me.
And I dont tell her stuff about me and my life because
1. She can only talk about herself and
2. Why would want to involve her in my life when she talks to my like she does.
We live in different countries, I moved a year ago, so she has no idea
She literally has no purpose in my life. Its just bad energy in my life.
But the problem is Im so bad at confrontation, I dont want to say anything but I feel like its weird to just cut her off like that.
If anyone reads this, please come with some advice on what I should do
@Grace1150
You said it yourself, you get bad vibes from her. I won't tell you what to do but, if you know the kind of energy you want to be associated with and you know the kind of people you want to have as friends, you should think very carefully about what you want to do.
No one wants a friend who will just drag them down. You matter. Your life matters. Just because you haven't gotten to that part of life where boys are coming in and out doesn't make you any less important than she is. Sex is sex and when you find yourself doing it with the wrong person, you will feel TERRIBLE. Don't let her pressure you into something that you'll potentially regret.
One thing about being in any relationship is that you need to make sure that you know when enough is enough. If you allow her to run over you the way she does, she will never respect you. Set your boundaries and set it straight! You are NOT an emotional punching bag, you are a human being, you are important, and just because you're not out in the scene doesn't mean ANYTHING. You do what you have to do for your mental health and well being and leave the rest to God.
If you truly want to be her friend, I think you should let her know that you are not okay with what she's doing. If she doesn't change, let her know you're sorry and you can't stay in a friendship that doesn't serve you. If she tries to project her anger and insecurities on you, keep CALM no matter what she says. Do not lose your cool. Remain kind through situations like this and God will see you through it.
@CoolBeans29 i think you're right about it!