Should I send to my friend?
Hey I don’t want this to turn into a big deal, but I just wanted to bring it into awareness. Sometimes when I share things with you it seems like you try to change what I should do or act/feel or side with the other person, and I’m grateful to have some advice every once in awhile, but most of the time I just want a listening ear, and to be able to express myself safely. It just feels invalidating to me about what I say and how I’m feeling, and also feels feels like you side with others instead of listening or understanding to how to how I’m feeling. I’m sorry I’ve got to be an emotional/sensitive friend, and I just hope you can try to understand my point view and hope we can we work on it. I value our friendship and I feel like we have to talk about what bothers us which creates a more healthy relationship we are going to cross roadblocks together I want to be able to work through them. So here I am sending thoughts and feelings, and just working on setting boundaries, and and speaking up for myself. This is honestly something extremely hard for me to confront you about ! I love you girl, through thick and thin! #wecandohardthings
@Mre605
Omigosh that's such a nice way to convey your thoughts, express your feelings and set some needed and important boundaries.
I like how you've shown consideration towards your friends' good intent for you, and how you've validated the friendship and the love y'all have for each other, while creating a healthy space for communication and working on things that can help in strengthening the bond even more.
Sooo nicely done. If I were your friend, I'd be so proud of you and happy that you communicate your feelings in a thoughtful and compassionate manner, while assuring me you'd want to work through the situation together and that we got this, also *together*. Makes all the difference hehe.
As an aside, I'm so proud of you for considering to send them this message, I know it firsthand how difficult boundary setting and being honest about our feelings sometimes can be with our loved ones. In all cases, we deserve to feel heard, acknowledged and supported. And I truly hope y'alls friendship gets stronger by the day. Go y'all! ❤
