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8yrs down the drain

User Profile: jr028
jr028 November 4th, 2024

hello, 

im currently in the process of leaving my 8yr on/off relationship for good. i am so incredibly heartbroken because this time he has revealed to me that he's been having sexual affairs with hookers and random women he met online...some meetings were unprotected as well. cheating has always been the number one issue between us and I've grown numb whenever I see he's been messaging other women. i now know how dumb I was to think he wasn't actually meeting up with these women, I chose to believe him that it was all just text/ a fantasy, but to be told he was being unsafe with these women now has made me feel sick to my stomach. we have a 5-year-old together and she adores him so much, my heart hurts whenever I think about our family falling apart. I had never thought of sharing custody of our child before and I'm beyond scared. everyday I have horrible thoughts of him being intimate with others and how he had a fwb for 7 months this year, he was having unsafe sex with her as well. everything is changing so fast and I don't know how to cope with this pain and how to start this co-parenting journey. 

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User Profile: YourCaringConfidant
YourCaringConfidant November 4th, 2024

@jr028 Hey there. I'm extremely sorry for what you've been put through. Relationships, in general, are hard enough... and to throw cheating in the mix, well that just makes it even harder. There's no room for infidelity when it comes to relationships and it's one of those things very hard to come back from. In your case, it seems his unfaithful ways have been a problem for a great length of time. That's heartbreaking. You don't deserve all this and I really hope you are able to heal from this. I also hope that you are able to find forgiveness in your heart towards him. ♡ I also wanted to let you know that I'm proud of you for being so mature about this and your willingness to co-parent with him. Often times, it's so easy to hold grudges towards people who hurt us and use the child as a pawn. So I just really wanted to let you know I admire that and your strength in you. ♡ The journey ahead of you may be tough, rocky, and scary but you got this! For the betterment of you and your daughter, I am wishing you all the best! Please take care of yourself, your daughter, and know you deserve the best life has to offer! Xoxo.