Anger issues
I always get easily angry in my relationship, any slight things happens makes me angry, my partner thinks i always want to start a fight and i’m always acting this way, while i know i just need sympathy. For example i said lets go out he said no then i become angry, or whenever he holds his phone i get upset because i was talking, then i became the one who always wants to fight and has no sense, i know that i want more attention but i dont know i dont want to blame myself cause i did it before and it wasn’t helpful. And i know he dont understand me or how he should act with me.
i want to control my emotions, i want to know how to act on these situations and at least expressing it in different way and not become rude or something.
ugh i’m so tired
@Meem123
if you really want to deal with emotions like anger better then perhaps you need to look deeper ....about what is triggering the anger. Do you feel your ideas are dismissed?
I have asked to go partner was not interested............ then week later they suggested we do same thing now they wanted to I said "NO" ... because when it is their idea it seems like we end up doing it and even though it was my original idea they feel like they "came up with it" that is a power struggle not a simple discussion about going out.
The phone thing while annoying and most people do not feel listened to in that situation ... it is more about respect then a phone .... have these things been discussed? and in a way that you both know it is not about going out or phone but the slight you feel related to these items.
The line in your post " how he should act towards me" seems a bit self directed. communication seems to be lacking
I have issues with anger too, I think it often comes from someone else not being able to meet our own needs and we outsource it to someone else. I could be wrong about why you are angry, but I think maybe if we meet that need ourselves first if someone else isn't able to we might be able to be upset without it consuming us as much. Sometimes we may also need to accept being misunderstood by others.