Burnt Out
Emotionally Tired
My bf and I have been tg for a year and a half and recently we have been going through it. I feel like his mental health is almost too much for me to handle. Whenever it comes to him, it’s always me doing something wrong. It feels like he doesn’t want to know or hear what he’s doing wrong. I have feelings too and I often feel unheard. I feel like I can’t do anything or even talk about anything because somehow it just becomes my fault. I told him that if he’s not ready to hear what he’s doing wrong then he’s just not ready to talk about something maturely. This happens so often and I’m starting to feel less and less validated. I’m just so tired and so burned out emotionally.
@jerie
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You might need to take a step back, rest, refresh, and take some time to yourself.
Its not your fault at all, you are not responsible for anyone else's happiness, you can be there for them, but they need to do the work.
Your feelings matter too 💕💜
Thank you for the encouragement! This means a lot.
@jerie
I have had this with a partner. It is exhausting to have circle conversations about fault etc. I used the "I" statements and it helped. You can tell him "i feel" you need to place fault for everything on me... or "i feel" we are not able to communicate clearly without spiraling into blaming....
My partner tried to argue and i said "so my feelings are wrong?" He quickly saw he can not dispute how i FEEL ..... and had to back down and really think about his portion or issues and my issues and then we could work on our reactions to each other.
It’s warming to know that other people understand. I just wish he understood how I feel. I’m trying the “I feel” statements currently, and I really hope there’s some change soon.