Communication
I don't know how to say this but i think I genuinely don't know how to communicate with people anymore.
I know how to listen and cheer up yes, but I keep being mistaken as angry when I speak or uninterested or any kind of emotion which isn't what I feel really and most times I don't even get confronted about it.
When I do it's always to tell me I'm wrong even if I was just stating the truth because I expressed myself the wrong way when I genuinely, really, didn't think I expressed myself badly.
It's getting to a point I'm feeling really frustrated because the only advice I got is to be more diplomatic with people who don't deserve my energy and time and basically let them believe they are right even if they aren't but I don't think this is the right way to handle it rather the fastest one.
I'm the kind of person who wants calm confrontation because I have no other way to express myself but most of the people around me are the kind of person who base themselves only on gossip and one sided stories so I don't know how to handle it and in my family we don't really communicate at all because everyone just blows up or uses snarky remarks so maybe it's why I don't know how to communicate well? Even then when I talk about other people in a positive way, let's say my boyfriend for example, they end up thinking he's trash because maybe I got frustrated with him once and told someone and I don't know what to do because I don't understand why people act this way and only remember the negative things.
Am I doing something wrong? Am I talking the wrong way? Saying things in a way that makes me sound negative? They also say I'm passive aggressive but people who know me even just a bit figured I'm not in the slightest and joke about it just to *** me off.
I have no clue of what I'm doing wrong.
Please help.
@tallPark8348
You are NOT doing anything Wrong. if people around you are echo chambers and never want to view things any other way they are limiting themselves. they are the ones with flawed communication.
I find same type of thing most people just say what is easy and just agree to end conversation. Afraid telling someone something that might challenge their positions.
They remember only negative because they want to create Drama or create ways to be offended or outraged (drama) IMO. This helps No one in the long run.
No one had the courage or honesty to say something that might make them review their point of view or see things from another perspective. Many end up with few or no friends later on as people grow tired of agreeing to flawed ideas.
Thank you for finding the time to answer me, it was really useful and kinda good to hear an opinion on this because this really stresses me out. I'm a very sensitive being so I find it hard to control my emotions at times and I'm already working on it so this doubt was eating me up and I didn't know who to talk to.
I'm still reflecting on how to act but this really helps with clearing up ideas.
Thank you❤
