Dad went and got me a b-day card 4 mom, not knowing I already had gotten one 4 Mom
I'm really annoyed at the fact Dad tries to be helpful by trying go get me birthday (Or Valentine's day or whatever) card for my Mom. I know he's trying to be helpful but by doing that he hurts my feelings. I have said time and time again that I like being able to buy my own gifts for the family and part of that for the occasion (Val's day, Easter, birthdays)- that is me buying cards for them. I'm not 5-24 years old and need someone else to buy me gifts to give to someone else that so kiddish now when I have my own money.
Dad just came up a few mins ago with a birthday card in his hand and I told him (a bit rudely) that I had already gotten a b-day card for my Mom. I know I could have told him a nicer manner but seriously, when I have to go through with that at least 3 times a year with him- that I had brought Mom a card for (occasion) and he wasted money on the same thing for me to sign?
@Disneywoman
Hi! It sounds like you’re feeling frustrated because you want to take on the responsibility of choosing and giving gifts yourself, but your dad’s well-intentioned efforts are interfering with that. It might help to have a calm conversation with him about how you feel. You could explain that you appreciate his intention to help but would prefer to handle gift-giving on your own. This way, you can share your feelings without it coming across as rude, and hopefully, he’ll understand and respect your wishes.
@aren60 the problem Is I had already gotten card and a gift for Mom's b-day like 2 weeks ago. And Dad had come up here the day before her b-day this year to show me the b-day card he had gotten me and due to other experiences, I really hate having to tell Dad all the time I already had that taken care of.
