Getting back together potential
Hey guys,
So my ex and i were together for 1 hear and a half. I loved him very much and he loved me. But for the past 7 months hes been more distant with me than before. I am anxiously attached and i need alot of love and reasurance to feel alright. Without it i feel lost, unloved, cant eat, sleep or study. I communicated this with him many times and he promised to change but je just didnt. Hes been really loyal to me. He loves me so deeply but he stopped expressing that to me which really messed me up. I broke up with him yesterday because i felt sadness to the point i felt i wished i was dead. He got angry with me and said he will never get back with me and find a new girl. I know he didnt meet my emotional needs but i cant help but wish that he would apologize and try harder. I am sitting here desperstely wishing and hoping he will come back to me and fix everything. Ehat should i do? How should i deal with things? How can i change my mind?
@LaylaRose05
I think the best way to understand and deal with relationships that do not meet our needs is to make sure we clearly have communicated those needs and not assume they know or general items and expect them to know what we want. .... Sometimes they simply do not and we are continually disappointed.
Now from his side it is exhausting to always continually to try to do what they think partner wants or needs only to find out we have fallen short or it is not enough. Only when I put myself in partners shoes did I see it is just as frustrating on other side. The un-communicated expectations and assuming if they "love" us they just know often causes distance IMO. sooner or later they may feel if we loved them they would not need to prove their feelings continually.
As for your need to be continually reassured maybe that can be worked on too. I was like that until I worked on me and i get my assurances from self esteem and self love not relying on others to make me feel confident.