Hb confided in me
I don't really know how to start this, so I'll jump in. A few months back, my husband told me that there was something he really needed to talk to me about. We've been married for almost 3 years, and finally he told me about a week or two ago... that he's addicted to adult videography.... He said it started over 10 years ago when he was a preteen. I can't be mad at him for it starting because I feel like you don't really know what you're doing to yourself as a kid, being exposed to things like that. However, the fact that he proposed to me, married me, and even told me when he wants to have a kid with me, all while doing this behind my back. Spending 2 hours in the bathroom at times while I'm sitting there waiting for him so we can do something together, work, go somewhere, and he's just been in there watching this every day for the past 4 years of our relationship. And he asked me for help, and I'm glad that he did, but a week or so after, he told me that it's been a lot easier than he thought it would be, which tells me that he didn't even try before? And I just don't understand how he could have proposed to me all this while doing that behind my back and been okay with it. I don't know what to do. I'm trying to be gracious, but this really hurt; it feels like he cheated on me, which is something we've both many a time said is unforgivable. But I'm so lost because I love him so much
@pluckyBalloon3377
I think it is a good sign he did share with you. he may not have tried before because he felt it would be too hard.
Finding out things are or were easier than he thought could be taken the way you have OR it became easier knowing you support him. He may have said that to ensure you there is progress ... my partner did that sometimes in things I wanted him to work on. It never gave me comfort it made me question why he had not put effort in before also. speak up with him and share your feelings if we hold back things we wished we had discussed it builds walls.