Heartbreak

@Scarlet10

Hello Scarlet,

Welcome to 7 Cups, we are happy you are here.

Breakups and relationships ending is no joke. The struggles and heartbreak is real. I would feel the same way. The way you feel is ok to feel that way right now.

You are stronger than you think, you are here which is proof to it. We believe in you and we care

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@Scarlet10 Hello! Break ups suck. They really really do. I've had many in my time, and it's always pretty painful. I would say that at first, distraction is the best thing, go out with friends, try new hobbies, remind yourself that you are your own person and that you don't need your ex to make you worthy or smart or beautiful.

After that, allow yourself to grieve. It's not the same grief as when someone has passed, but you've still lost something. Accept the emotions that come with it, watch them pass without judgement.

Learning to love and trust again afterwards isn't easy, but with time you will look back and find it easier to understand. But right now, talk to someone about it, and try not to dwell too much. When the wound is still open, poking it and trying to figure it out is just going to hurt. Give it some time to heal, and then have a good look at it.

Hope this helps!

Hello! I am so sorry you are going through this and I hope you have a lot of support around you and are feeling better after coming here on 7 cups. Would love to know how you are feeling today and what are some things you are doing that make you happy