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User Profile: sunnyPineapple5075
sunnyPineapple5075 August 8th, 2025

I am in a relationship with a 25years old woman, who keep disrespecting me with multiple ways (being late, rude, not caring, forgeting dates...) to the point when i even try to talk to her (cause i believe communication is key) she put all the blame on me and tell me that i don't understand her and that she don't like the way i am with her, and if im not happy i can go.Once again i try to explain that i am like this because of what she does to me and it hurt.

All she do is moving on like nothing happend and keep doing the same mistakes that makes me sad, irritated and depressed.

I don't know what to do, i am really tired like really, i tried my best and i did everything to make here understand me but she never did and she always hurt me with her words.

I am tired of this disrespect, what should i do? Am i at fault ? What did i do wrong ? In what step i f up? I tried to end the relation but something is holding me i still have hope or smt. I really need an advise or somone to understand me

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User Profile: Amanda84
Amanda84 August 8th, 2025

@sunnyPineapple5075

If she is late, rude, leaving you waiting around, these are her actions, if you have communicated this to her and she doesn't want to listen, then sadly this might not be the relationship for you. You deserve to be respected, and to receive the same energy that you give her. You should feel happy and secure in a relationship not dismissed 💜💕

User Profile: toughTiger6481
toughTiger6481 August 8th, 2025

@sunnyPineapple5075

by how you describe it it is not you.... holding on because you hope she changes it often a waste of time...  no matter how you change will not fix Her attitude or respect. 

She told you who she is...... that she does not feel being late/ rude or forgetting plans is disrespectful but how she is.... believe her. 

User Profile: intellectualVase2518
intellectualVase2518 August 8th, 2025

@sunnyPineapple5075 At some point in my life, I felt the same way as you. Every time I tried to communicate with my partner about how their actions affected me—how when they called me names, it made me feel hurt—I ended up feeling worse and like it was my fault, like I deserved to be treated the way I was. I did not understand why they were treating me that way, so the only explanation I had was that I deserved it because I made them feel angry, misunderstood, and jealous, even when that was not my intention.


I tried to explain my intentions to them many times because I wanted them to understand me, to see me, and to treat me right. But no matter what I did, they were never able to give me what I needed. Over time, this helped me realize something important: how they treated me was not up to me, it was up to them. They were in control of their own actions, not me—no matter how many times they tried to justify their behavior by saying that I was the one who made them do those things to me.

This is why I don’t think how they treated you is related to you in any way. This is simply how they learned to treat other people, and it is up to them to learn how to unlearn those behaviors. Just as they cannot make you leave this relationship, that is something you need to do for yourself so that you can unlearn the unconscious desire to return to people who don’t treat you right.