I know this isn’t right .
Disbelief
The person I’ve been seeing for 2 1/2 years… it’s been a long emotional strain… I care about this guy… I’m emotional where he is avoidant. I tell him in detail why I’m feeling what I am for him to tell me I do not express anything and he has no idea why I feel what I do.. makes no sense. Every talk ends in a snowball argument…. Yelling at one another… makes no sense to me. I tell him where I feel I’m coming up short… for him to cal himself a POS… but I’m not saying that… obviously he doesn’t want to take accountability…. This last time… he tells me I’m mental and have bipolar…. I know I don’t … makes me so sad…. He is always running. While I know I need to let him go… I’ve done so much healing… he can never answer the questions I ask that pertain to his behavior. Makes me upset especially when he says he ‘cares about me’ I know better.
I lost my dog unexpectedly and fell into depression an expressed to him how I felt for him to yell at me and basically tell I’m wrong for feeling what I am…. How do I let This person go.
sounds so stupid. Every time I bring something up regarding his behavior he shuts me doWn and tells me how bad I am but that’s not my intent. I then allow him to go first. Never works. We don’t mesh.
@wonderingifimworthit
I am sorry you are going through that ... I can understand and it is hard to deal with ... i really do not think these types are unaware of their feelings.. they do not want to share... if they open that box they are terrified of what will come out. Mine has said the same hurtful things and keeps claiming he does not know how to express how he feels.
Expressing our feelings and being open is a skill needing constant practice.... not something anyone is good at first time trying ... It in my experience it does not magically turn around.
As for leaving it is easy to say i will in x amount of time or if this or that does not change but we put it off.... breakups can be messy ...sooner is always better to just make a exit plan and take action.
I am sorry to read you are in a toxic relationship with this guy who thinks it ok to yell at someone who has just lost their dog friend and all they need is a hug. I think you are beginning to realise this relationship does not deserve a kind heart like you. ♥️
good luck with a new path that supports and loves the good human you are 😊
