I’m in desperation mode.

@AOTackerman

Hey there! I'm so sorry you're going through this situation right now. I can direct you to our self-help guides here: https://www.7cups.com/self-help/ Please read any that are of interest - I'll just point out "Breakup Advice", "Acceptance and Commitment Therapy", and "Managing Emotions" as places to start.

Attachment theory is a complicated thing that might be something you want to explore with a trained therapist. You can find trained therapists at this link here: https://www.7cups.com/local/therapists/

If that's not accesible to you for whatever reason, you can always find a Listener here that specializes in relationships. https://www.7cups.com/BrowseListeners/ - and then you can search by topic. They can help you talk through things.

I hope this helps! 💞

@AOTackerman

communication is something i feel in relationships needs to be worked on as a team.... working alone is like learning to dance a tango on your own. 

Being insecure and possible anger issues you can look inside and look for signs.   i was in those shoes gained confidence that being insecure and needing constant reinforcement is annoying to many.  i was angry about things but not the items my partner thought it was about.   

 I was told as a child we have an angry button and we are the only one that pushes it.   Example when a partner does something or says something ... i can chose to listen and take it in or ask why they dis this or that...... OR i can chose to jump to............... they are wrong and this is why ... they always do this .. they are not respecting me etc.... see i pushed the button.   Once pushed we can not go back to take the other path so take a deep breath when in discussion or some thing happens wait to push a button.