I need some advice

@DominoeEffect

Hi there. Thanks for reaching out. I wonder if your partner is perhaps looking for some reassurance from you? Just a thought as like you say, you have your hobbies, etc., and it’s always good to have a little time apart otherwise it can feel a bit too much. 

Sounds more an issue with her tbh.

She seems insecure . What have her previous relationships been like? What does she do with herself when you off doing other things.

Some distance for personal growth is entirely normal and health. Joined at the hip for forever more isn't. You shouldn't have to be made to feel guilty for having your own hobbies and time .

You need to discuss with her.. open clear express your concerns and hopefully get some discussion back to work through .

Sounds more an issue with her tbh.

She seems insecure . What have her previous relationships been like? What does she do with herself when you off doing other things.

Some distance for personal growth is entirely normal and health. Joined at the hip for forever more isn't. You shouldn't have to be made to feel guilty for having your own hobbies and time .

You need to discuss with her.. open clear express your concerns and hopefully get some discussion back to work through .

@DominoeEffect

It sounds like you really care about her, but you’re also feeling drained when your need for space isn’t respected. I think it might help to have an open but gentle conversation where you explain that your hobbies and alone time don’t take away from how much you love her. Reassure her, but also set some healthy boundaries so you can both feel secure and independent in the relationship. Finding that balance is tough, but it’s important for the long term

@DominoeEffect

People loving each other is a great thing 😊 But still, people in a couple may have different emotional needs or attachment styles. For example, you may need more independence and alone time, while you partner might be more "clingy" and need more reassurance (it can be said about both women and men).

It is important to balance that, still being yourself, but not losing your partner. Sometimes it can feel like walking on the line, but I believe this is how relationships work.

Also, sadly, in the crazy world of nowadays some ill-intended people blatantly use their time without a partner to lead a double life. And hearing such stories may produce some concerns even in those normal people, who are both trustworthy and able to trust.

One of the ideas I get might be showing her your day without her. For example: Let's imagine that your hobby is fishing. Then, you can take your girlfriend with you for a day of fishing.

It may sound like a sacrifice, but it can bring some positive output. First, your partner knows that nothing wrong happens (like you getting drunk, eaten by a bear or chasing other women) when you are away. Second, at the end of the day she might be so bored, that next time she would insist on you to go there alone 😉 

Well, I think there is still a third option—that she might be happy to assist you with your hobby. That means a win-win situation: you could spend more time together without sacrificing your passion.

@DominoeEffect

          Some people have different thoughts about relationships and time spent apart .. when a person has hobbies or items they like to do and partner does not share that ... it can cause friction and perhaps concern if time spent away is something more. 

        In the end if you can be honest with each other and she can share what she needs besides constant reassurance to be secure in relationship.  Maybe encourage her to find a hobby as well.