Insecurity and anxiety is ruining my life
Please help I desperately need someone to talk to and reassure me. I went through 16 years of abuse- from beatings to cheating to controlling money, food, friends, work, mental abuse, you name it. I ran away as a few weeks later he took his own life.
i met someone amazing shortly after and wasn’t looking but it felt amazing and have been with him 4 yrs. The last heat has been filled with doubt anxiety and worry that he’s cheating. He’s fed up with my anxiety and I’m fed up with his lack of effort and reassurance- but the panic makes it one thousand times worse!
please help! I can’t breathe!
@HollyJade14
Hi Holly! Thank you for reaching out. I am sorry to hear about your challenging experience with your earlier relationship. That sounds incredibly distressing and I am glad you are no longer in that situation. It makes sense that you are experiencing this uncertanity and anxiety after such a challenging expereince. I get that reassurance seems to be the easiest way for one to feel secure when in such a situation but sometimes we end up stuck in a loop of wanting more and more reasuration. It may help to work on your underlying challenges which as per your post is anxiety and panic.
Here are some resources that can help.
The Cycle of Anxiety (The same channel has a series on Anxiety)
You can connect to a verified listener who supports Anxiety as a topic here.
I know what this feels like. All you want is understanding reassurance and support. When it's not given you have this knot in the tummy like nausea and cannot breath and feel sick .. I curl up in a ball and rock... I've been told your too weak, to sensitive, I don't need a woman like you in my life! I need a strong woman like bla bla bla.. comparing to others.
It makes things worse. I cry everyday