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I thought I had moved on, but lately my first crush keeps coming back to my mind

User Profile: brightDay6709
brightDay6709 June 12th, 2025

It’s been three months since I found out that the girl I’ve been in love with for eight years, but never confessed to, is in a serious relationship with someone else.

While it was devastating, I somehow managed to make my peace with it and tried to move on. It hasn’t been easy, but I still managed to do it.

But right now, I’m missing her so much. She keeps coming back to my mind, and I can’t help but feel desperate to have her.

Maybe it’s because of the loneliness. After a year of unemployment, I finally got my first job at a decent company with a decent salary, but I had to relocate. I’m in a place where I don’t speak the local language, I don’t know anyone, and I can’t easily connect with my colleagues.

I cut off the rest of my friends because I was too depressed after the revelation. And now, I don’t have a chance to reconnect, everyone is busy with their own lives

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User Profile: toughTiger6481
toughTiger6481 June 12th, 2025

@brightDay6709

I think we have past what if's pop up into our mind when we are lonely or not content in our current situation.   Have you tried to reconnect ..

i think we assume everyone is busy and they may feel the same about us but many times both sides are wishing we had a friend to talk or hang out with.    i recently told a neighbor that happens so she felt like calling me and we walk or do lunch etc missed lots of time assuming each other was always busy. 

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User Profile: brightDay6709
brightDay6709 OP June 12th, 2025

I've been trying to reach out to them these last few days, but I am only getting dry replies from them. I know them, they won't be replying like this if they weren't busy.

It's just. I miss her so much. I am trying my best to not look her up on social media. I haven't even looked at her profile for the past month.

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