Just friends
Hi I am K 25 years old and I love someone. I met this guy last year December almost 1 year now.we met through dating app and with some condition such as no string attachment. Luckily he is still clear with his words And I am the one who got attached. He keeps giving me mix signal about but when I confessed my love he said he dont want this drama.I was okey with it its his choice but now a days he ignores me on text and call when I asked he said he is too busy in life but recently I found he is just hanging out with his female bestfriend. I told him I feel jealous and his answer was clear why are you jealous we are just into physical relationship there is no love we are just friends you shouldn’t be jealous. I don’t t understand how easy it is for man to sleep with girl and say we are just friends. I know there friendship is pure but its not about person but its all about attention. I just want his attention and he is giving it to someone else. The person is not just my situation-ship or friends with benefits but at the same time he is my client I am working on his Interior project how can I just leave it in middle when I worked for last 10 month on the project.I use to feel the project is the main problem that’s why I am not ready to move on but no its not just project but its him I really love him and I dont want to give up on him but at the same time I am tired of the thought that he dont care and he dont love me and he is. Never going to love me. Can someone suggest me how to detach in such situation I keep texting him and calling him I want to save my self respect I want to learn detachment…
@kriyaaaaaa345668
I'm sorry you are being treated like this .
He cannot have his cake and eat it too.
Of course, feelings get involved.
Don't let him use you.
Never beg anyone for their attention.
You deserve better.
For someone who wants you.
Not just the fun elements of a relationship.
You deserve so much better 💕💜
Thank you so much for your support it really made me feel like someone can understand my painð¥º
@kriyaaaaaa345668
My pleasure 💜
I can see your pain over the situation and I'm sorry you are going through it
Unrequited love is horrible especially if he is giving mixed signals. It sounds like breadcrumbing.
Worse is the work side of things. Is there a way to pass this on to a colleague in the company . You can be involved still with the work side of things but not deal directly with him.
Space and time away from the situation and person can help and if it wasn't for the work side of things I'd suggest going no contact. Delete numbers and emails and social media. Or block.
We both know we can't make some one love another and as much as it hurts you also have to realized its not you. You deserve love , a proper love that chooses you back. This here isn't love and you have to try process. Have a think what is it about him that you are so attracted to? I would suspect it's not him specifically and more your ( and everyone's ) need for connection and recognition and ultimately love and I may be wrong but you may have lacked that in a way but here was a person that seem to provide that to an extent.
Be kind to yourself and reach out here as much as you need . It does get better eventually.
Yeh lack of attention can be the reason why I am okey with such less attention but now I think yes I deserve more and I deserve love. No I cant pass my project as it is individual work but yes I will stop the work if it’s hampering my mental health Thank you so much for your support
@kriyaaaaaa345668
Can you separate your work from this and be professional? Sounds like he wanted friends with benefits from the start.
So many people think it will start that way but then we will live happy ever after when they develop feelings. Respect your boundaries and if you are just friends stop the benefits. if that is important to him and he sees you are not willing to be used he may reexamine how he feels about you.
Yes I tried to stop it but it was hard for me but slowly I will set the boundaries Thank you so much for your support
@kriyaaaaaa345668It’s really hard to feel ignored and confused like this. Detaching takes time, and it’s okay to start by setting small boundaries, like limiting calls and texts. Focus on yourself and the things that make you feel strong. Remember, your feelings are valid, and you deserve respect and care. You’re not alone in this.
yes I deserve respect but its hard to accept it. I will try to focus on myself Thank you so much for your support ð¥º