Last chances.

So, I'm gonna start this thread with a little bit of back story, as it's been a while since I've posted here.

I downloaded this app nearly a year ago to ask for help regarding my wife and her behavior. I have been with my wife for 10 years come August, married for 4 of those years. We have a young son, 5 years old, who deserves nothing but the best for him.

I have gone through multiple classes, anger management, therapy, a dietitian, and even a marriage councilor. I have requested that she do some of the same (outside of marriage counciling) as I believed it would help our relationship, but she refused.

She has stopped taking care of our son, and herself. We both work, but when I'm gone and she's supposed to be watching him (homeschooling, cooking, helping with chores, etc) she gives him a video game console, tells him to leave her alone, and goes to sleep until roughly 10-15 minutes before I'm supposed to return from work. She also sleeps roughly 8-9 hours a night so lack of sleep isn't exactly a concern to my knowledge.

I have taken some responsibility to help her with these issues and have began watching my son even more frequently (even losing some of my own sleep to help her out.)

She has also lost interest in taking care of herself, stopped bathing, brushing her teeth, and wearing clean clothes (sometimes wearing clothing for up to 5 days in a row)

I have raised these concerns on this group before, and was told to help her with her responsibilities and help her seek counciling, which I have insisted she do, all of which she absolutely will not do, she has declined again and again, and I'm coming to a breaking point.

I love her, and I love my son, and that's why I can't watch her go down this path, she's had a tooth fall out, she's began ignoring our son, and she won't acknowledge that she's doing any of this. I feel like I'm going crazy, and I can't tell if I'm just not able to see something here.

I've discussed separation, it's the last thing I want but I feel like I can't continue on like this.

My son deserves better. I just didn't want to admit that "better" might have meant his parents split up.

Thank you for reading, I appreciate the support.