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Moments of clarity cont.

User Profile: Ryan575
Ryan575 August 14th, 2025

As i was saying, so if our marriage had any hope at all. Would she "need to figure it out"...at this point, i dont think so. She also told me at one point "she has love FOR me but is not in love with me" Is that recoverable? Based on all the things i just mentioned and how she has been acting, i dont think its truly possible outside of a miracle. Through all this torment of dealing with this all happening blatently in front of my face, and the almost total isolation in my own home my love meter has hit about an 8th of a tank...an continues to decrease daily. That seems like a valid reaction to my particular situation. The love for my son is as strong as it has ever been. Im so sorry to him and for him. Did me opening the door to this possibility earn me this punishment? Im not sure anymore, but i do know that no matter the situation...i would never have done this to her. The real question: is me only fighting for this marriage for a little over 1 week and then giving up make me a weak man? Im not sure, i have fought pretty damn hard but have seen very little if any progress on her part. This man is clinging to her but tells her "as long as shes happy, he dosnt care how this plays out" should i feel the same way? Im ready to jump ship or so to speak. I cant take this anymore, my heart is shattered and continues to break more every tim i see her texting on her phone or wearing her earbuds...

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User Profile: toughTiger6481
toughTiger6481 August 14th, 2025

@Ryan575

sadly until she sees it nothing will change ... by then would you want to be chosen when she finds out online person is not interested in making this real?   His comment as long as she is happy  shows he may bail when she wants real.       

 She should feel sorry to son for what she has done as this will not remain a secret ... if his mom could do that to his dad how would he trust any relationship in future.  She is showing him being selfish is OK to hurt others or not keep your words/vows. So much collateral damage she is not even considering .... if she was that unhappy before this started what did she do to fix? 

 You are not a weak man to know when a fight is not working or maybe the prize at end is not worth it.