Never been in a relationship before
Hey…just wondering if anyone else has never been in a relationship before? You know, not single by choice but single bcs of no choice :)
I never been asked out, flirted with, no any kind of romantic interactions from a guy. It sucks when everyone around me get in and out of relationships, some are married, engaged, or at least in the talking stage with someone and you have no romance in life to update. The feeling of unloved, wondering what is wrong with me? Am I ugly? Is my personality bad? Shall I blame it on the star or the fate? I honestly don’t know. And what’s worse? I want to be in a relationship, but it’s just not for me. And please don’t say “it will come when you least expect or not looking for it” or “ love yourself first” or any of those toxic positivity anymore, so tired of it.
I am really upset with my fate, or am I destined to be alone?
I hear you, and I’m not going to give you those standard lines because I know they feel like a slap in the face when you’re hurting. It is incredibly lonely to feel like the only one standing still while everyone else is moving into engagement or marriage. That feeling of 'what is wrong with me' is heavy, and it’s okay to be upset with your fate right now.
You aren't 'destined' to be alone, but that doesn't make the current silence any easier to bear. If you want a space where you can be honest about these feelings without being told to 'just love yourself,' I’m a listener here. You are more than welcome to reach out if you just want someone to sit with you in this for a bit. You don't have to carry that 'unloved' feeling by yourself tonight.
@Fluffycloudd Hey i'm in your same situation,
@Fluffycloudd Hey i'm in your same situation, can you find a way for us to talk together, maybe ***?
Hi, I don’t know how to send direct message via this app at all if neither one of us is listener.
You got this I believe in you!
You got this I believe in you!
@Fluffycloudd well learn to know the consequnces and if you are in a healthy relationships or not, i mean prepare for it, cause if you ain't prepare for it, chances are you will end up getting abuse.
@Fluffycloudd
@Fluffycloudd
Believe it or not, I am kinda self-aware and fully understand the good and bad side of being in a relationship. It takes a lot more than love to make it works, I know fully well. My post was just to vent my frustration of being single “not by choice”, it just seems like love doesn’t arrive for me or god forgot to write mine 🙂. It gets heavy sometimes trying to have hope and faith that one day I will be in a relationship like others.
i seen your upvite been off for a few weeks but i have writtings from well i have paper and pens for friends i wanted to share one im trying to climb out the shadow and re learn to talk but heres this (What is true joy or happiness? What is pain or pleasure? Why is a dark destructive path easier than the straight and narrow? Why is the ringing louder when the light sleeps and makes the spirit bleed? Understanding what is understanding if the questions never feel like home? If we’re worth it why is worth feel empty and sometimes meaningless still strong presence. )
