Pls give me advice
I’m in a relationship for a year. I concern about his uses of SNS. We both can log in our *** accounts. His followers almost are girls. And I see nearly everyday that he chats to girls. Even like when we spend time together. Also he comments on girls posts like “ you’re too hot” something like that. But I never heard those words saying to me from him. I know It’s just chatting. But one time, he was chatting with a girl in a flirty way for days. I felt so sad and insecure about it. So I told him about it and he said he will never do that again. But I still don’t truly trust him. I try to avoid to make boy friends or compliment boys because it may hurt my boyfriend’s feelings. But he does normally to me. I do love him, but I always think about this when he touches his phone. And I start overthinking and be quiet in front of him. I don’t know what to do.
@neatCherry4859
We are in a world where people can chat to more people probably then ever before in history. IMO this has caused many to overthink and stress about chats...
commenting on a post even telling someone they look good in photos can be innocent and people are just validating the poster, if you want to be validated take a photo and send to him the reality is he is with YOU he chose you....
we can have conversations even semi flirty with online people without it clearly being a problem ... IMO too many people are being told any chat / glance or whatever is a threat ... it is not
Thank you so much for your advice. I think so too that SNS makes me overthink a lot. But also you’re right that commenting can be just an innocent behavior. I will try to not to care that much about it! I appreciate your advice! And hope you have a great day!
A second chance is alright, but if that behavior doesn't change, then it's a choice. You can forgive him all you want, but the trust would be hard to rebuild. The choice is up to you and how much you can take for loving this guy.
If my man was flirting or commenting like that to someone else, he would be gone. It don't matter if it was a model. Ask yourself "why?" What good is that doing for your relationship and him? That's very disrespectful. Some people are ok with that. Like i said we all have different boundaries.
