I had a friend, a very good friend I would say a best friend that I met on a whim while at an airport, two years ago. Despite the age difference (I’m older) we commented immediately and kept in contact. Literally, talked almost daily for the past two years, video chatted, shared memes, etc.

well recently as in the past month, we started to plan a trip to meet up and explore a few countries. Everything was great until it wasn’t. He was obviously paying for his stuff and me for mine then we would split shared things like transportation, hotel, etc.

when I was asking for feedback, he wouldn’t make time. I would send links and explain we are on a deadline due to the season, etc. finally, got a little feedback but after that it was like he never had time for anything regarding the trip.

I stated to him how this made me feel and I was overwhelmed and needed help. That effort is big to me and we both should be partaking equally in this. It then turned into I was being a lot and to chill out. Chill out for expressing how he made me feel. He had no time for me but plenty for local friends, soccer matches, BBQs, etc.

we would still talk about everything else but the trip it was like, I can’t right now, I’m busy. I started to get upset and stressed and explained again how it made me feel, why and how he had time for everything else. He lost it. He said, he was busy at work. No, he wasn’t because we have an 8 hour time difference. He wasn’t already done with work when I’d tried to talk to him.

he told me. )3 would book his flights the 15th for the inter hopping ones. But he didn’t, he said he had some business expenses but would do it the 15th after things posted. However, several days before, he bought a ticket last minute to somewhere else. When I said how that made me feel. That he told me due to business expenses that he couldn’t until the 15th but turned around to book Budapest last minute that it made me feel like nothing. That it was hurtful and how was he able to do that but told me otherwise.

mo response except, I’m too much and he is in a bad place and to give him a day or two and it will be fine.

well, it’s been weeks. Not a word while he was in Budapest except everything is fine and we will see each other soon. When he got back, I simply asked if he had some time the next couple days to discuss the trip. I was left unread but he was active on social media. A day later, I said hello is everything okay. He said, WTF I’m busy at work. I am not answering texts I’m busy. Whoa! Since when because he use to text and call all the time at work or when I was at work, or with friends, etc. now, suddenly so busy.

I said fine and explained how I felt and that it wasn’t okay. Clearly, something is going on that he is not being honest with me about. Which again, is weird bc he’s always been very open with me. I said, I don’t deserve to be treated this way nor will I tolerate it. Ignored me but read the message.

I deleted him from socials and was just done. However, I woke up this morning and had to get things off my chest. So, I said what I needed to say. Told him he exerted narcissistic, gaslighting, love bombing and bread crumbing behaviors and that not okay. It is not okay to ghost and treat someone how he has, and people are not disposable whenever he wants or doesn’t want them. I told him he had a lot of growing up to do and how evil and disgusting it was he wanted to do all this, I bought international flights for myself and he screwed me over. Was that the plan the entire time. I told him if he thinks he played me, he didn’t. He only played himself because he just lost a true friend that’s always been there for him through everything. He’s even told me I was the only one there and his friends at home weren’t true, etc.

I then blocked him. I went back to look and he read the message immediately this was before I blocked him. Later in the day, I went to look at something else and he blocked me bc his photo was gone on WhatsApp.

during the past two years, never had any issues, or anything but suddenly no time but lived on social media and adding half naked women on ***, etc.

wjat hurts is how he treated me for expressing how he made me feel. I explained in the beginning why communication and effort and huge with me and he and I talked about it. But suddenly, I was no one. When I was the one he called, he laughed with. He even said, he loved me because of our time and connection. Then boom, bomb dropped out of no where.

that’s what hurts and angers me and him knowing I invested in this trip and he screwed me over. So, it’s a roller coaster of emotions.