Recent break up
Recently my boyfriend wanted a break from seeing each other because of problems in our relationship. It’s been about 2 1/2 years together with a break early on in the relationship. He reassured me that he just needed space because i was too dependent, too insecure. i understand his feelings and know i have been that way, i know i’m anxious and need help to love myself, that i can’t dependent on him for that. a few days later, i’d noticed his location, i won’t get into details, but it wasn’t adding up. we hadn’t been talking but we kept location on. i felt sick and tried calling him to talk things through about the break and fully understand the boundaries of our break: whether it was a break from communication or a break up. i broke a boundary in itself when i contacted him, he got upset and he told me he wanted a break up. emotional and patchy communication continued to happen for days after that. he’d text once then not respond for 24 hours and i felt completely blindsided. about a week ago he revealed there’s someone else. a few days went by without communication before he texted me he missed me. i ignored him. a few days later he texted me he wanted to give me the ending i deserved and give me closure. all of this has happened in less than a month and i feel so blindsided. even after the break he was telling me he loved me and was waiting for me, then the send he told me about the new woman he told me he’s been falling out of love and blamed me for not picking up his hints. i feel like i’m going crazy almost. he broke up with me because i felt insecure he’d go to someone else, he admitted to lying to me to keep me happy in the relationship, and then suddenly he appears with someone else? but i needed to go to therapy because i was scared it was going to happen? i tried asking him why he would text me he missed me if he had someone else already and is alreayd out of love me with. he told me it’s so i don’t hurt myself over him. i’ve never threaten to, i’ve never hurt myself over him. it made me feel so weak. i just don’t understand what’s happening and how to even move on from this.
@considerateClementine3156
break ups can be confusing and a person who meets someone else sometimes they are afraid to move on ... they are comfortable with things as they are and what if new is harder or perhaps he was waiting to see if it was solid with other person before cutting connection with you. trying to juggle until they decide happens a lot IMO .....people should cut ties first but that does not always happen.
Being independent and confident in yourself is something you can do to move forward ...Loving yourself is a personal journey and believe me i tried to get others to help me with that. What works for one does not work for all it is almost a thing you have to grow and nurture yourself for it to be true .........and not just pretending cause we read a psychology article and have a checklist we are crossing off.
We can replay every moment from our view and never see what we did not see before or chose to not see....
Many simply do not see or i they do not admit to themselves the issues in relationship and when one is falling out of love we pretend it is not so even if we see the signs.
