Relationship x Problem
I been with this guy for almost 8 years. At first he was kind, loving, and laid back. Now, he has changed his body language is different. We not as close like we used too. Ever since he work at 3rd shift things change, he messaged to his female coworker a lot, she get all of his attention even though they are not flirting now she's married. I feel like she's gets more attention than me. At home he sleeps all day til 7pm then heading to work. We argue every day even yesterday (Valentine's Day). He doesn't think anything is wrong with us or himself and I told him I'm not okay with things going and of course he would ignoring me or don't agreed. It is hard to be in a relationship with person work 3rd shift. I used to work there but I was single. We have a family it's a lot for me at night. I need help real bad I'm at the point I'm starting to lose my mind and I am disabled now. I don't know what I can do about that.
@CharmingHumanKidaa
Does he want to work that shift or is that what is available?
It sounds like the distance and not as close and body language is not a shift problem. You want to fix it will take work from both of you. Remember you can only change you and he has to change him.
Would it really be different between you and him if he worked another shift?
Honest Communication about your relationship without it being blamed on the job is needed.
If a partner is talking as Friends with someone it, is they feel listened to validated and supported by the friend. Far too many want to think it is something more but honestly a person who we can connect with, and our partner is not giving us that support is a common problem.
Yes, he pick it cause he don't like working 2nd shift, and he wants to spend more with his family. That's not seen to be working at all. Everyone told him we will be having a hard time together and they were right.
1st shift or 2nd shift sound fine to me, I thought he was okay with it.
They would always chatting more and play games a lot.
That's what make me feel jealous or overthinking. They were about to go places but I'm sure if they did went.
@CharmingHumanKidaa
No need to be jealous or overthink just find a way to spend time with him do you play these games he plays? can you play with both of them?
He doesn't want to play games with me. In fact the only time we go places is doctor office. I did talk to the girl and she told me, they're talking crap to each other, they work together but nothing happened. When he find out he got mad at me. He didn't want to say bye when he go to work. He really feels some type of way.
Hey are you free to talk
Yes, I'm sorry for late reply
Heyyy, i know its seems like the end of the world but i just want to tell you that ur valid and that everything can be different, maybe your partner is struggling with something too and is overwhelmed but who knows I would try to talk to him about everything that is bothering you and if he's gonna ignore it then ignore his stuff too, try to act like hes acting to you and maybe something can change, ofc he can struggle with his own things and he just don't have energy for some things and its normal for someone how is going through something, try to ask him about his day or something, but don't lose hope it can be better trust me.
I'm sorry for late reply,
I did try to talk to him and he doesn't respond to me right away. When he does response his male ego get in between us. That's annoying so much. He type of guy to let hig big ego to think he's right all the time. I feel like almost 8 years went down the drain. It hard to talk to him how I feel about it and he doesn't think anything is wrong with our relationship.
Yeaaa then i dont think its right to be with this type of person, well u can try at least act like he acts to you maybe that will open his eyes a little
