Right person wrong time?
My gf left me, and we spoke for 5.5 hours in person in my car. She told me she hates how my parents treat me and stuff and how there's so much between us atm(school work family etc). She tells me "you know that line? 'Right person, wrong time'?"........
And then later in the convo when I ask if we will ever get back together after I'm done with school in a few months she says "no" and when I ask her "so you basically never want to be together again?"....she just looks at me sad and says "Yeah."
I'm getting therapy at my college but what do I do, she tells me "right person wrong time" but then tells me she never wants to be together again and just wants to be friends
I told her I can't be her friend. She cried when I said that and when I showed her the bday card I got her. She said "I don't want to lose you in my life" but I can't be friends with her and pretend I'm not crazy about her...she's my world....and I'm almost done with school and will actually be able to take her out on dates and stuff.....
So which one is it? "Right person wrong time?" Or she never wants to be together again?
I broke down in the car and she kissed me and hugged me, but idk what she means, but we are broken up and idk what to do or how to react
She is my eveything and she doesn't see that, she says I have a avoidant attachment and that I'm "Too independent", I'm scared to open up to her because she has stuff going on with her own family and is trying to get into school and I don't want to burden her with my problems and take away her focus from her goals because of me....but she says that's what pushed her away........I thought I was making the mature decision by waiting to tell her how I feel about things bothering me until her problems are over....but she says thats what ruined us....
So is it right person wrong time, or does she never want to get back together?
Before she left my car she asked if I wanted to "keep the card" I got her, like she just didn't care and was so cold about it and kept checking her watch because she was gonna go see a friend and I felt like I was being pitied.
She walked to her car and when she drove away, I made sure she drove out of sight....i cried for about 30 seconds before I screamed like I never have before in my life....I love her with all my heart
What do I do. What does she mean? I need help
@toughPapaya1551
this line seems like a take on the old "it is not you it is me" or other let people down easy lines
there is no right time for anything ...............you not sharing with her waiting for the right time........look at marriage vows all usually versions of good times and bad / sick and in health ...... so why would relationships all need to be the RIGHT time.
LIFE happens .. there will always be good and bad times ...........busy the not busy times ...... much like the weather, we do not get to pick days for rain or all days would be sunny and nice.
I do not think she plans to get back together....
but being so nice in breaking up ....................leaves others in confusion and with false hope that sometimes things will get back together........