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Should I leave ?

User Profile: marsbursss
marsbursss January 16th, 2025

hi! i am in a relationship with this guy- i have been with him for 11 months. during our *** 6 months i found out he lied abt playing pubg with his brother like mmm he wouldn’t respond at 12 and then call me at 5 to sleep- pretending like he accident fell asleep- i thought that was it- but then there was another incident abt a month ago where i figured out that he was talking to girls behind my back- even his ex- and i even found out he said he would get back with her but nah- i confronted him abt this and he said the ex thing was because he was being dumb but he was scared that i was gonna leave and just wanted to have friends just in case he gave them up for me- he kept a secret since the start of our relationship im pretty sure- he said he barely talked to them but this broke me, i didn’t know what to do. i gave him chances again after this. then a few days ago he lied again. i won’t say what- it was a very small lie like oh i didn’t do it when it’s clear he did. i honestly don’t know what to do, again with another chance but im just - yk? he said he felt overwhelmed that i would leave with over a lie so that’s why he lied and he thought i would get mad- i do have anger issues. anyway, i notice i think abt being with someone who didn’t lie to me, where i can find out cute stuff abt him rather than find out lies. idk what to do, i feel like conflicted i wanna stay i would rather stay but i always wanted a relationship where issues like these never happened- ik that’s probably unrealistic but yeah. idk to stay til he lies again or just leave now - i honestly don’t wanna leave but i want to at the same time- idk what to do.

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User Profile: toughTiger6481
toughTiger6481 January 16th, 2025

@marsbursss

                  If you do not want to leave then you will need to communicate with him .... i no longer say talk because many talk but it does not sink in to people.   What would your reaction have been if he told you he was out with his brother.... think about it .....

Talking with girls / ex  could he be insecure about your relationship?    What can you both do to feel this is secure?    Small lies trying to save a persons feelings or said for who knows what reason are things I work through case by case... but needs to be addressed setting boundary that you would rather hear the truth then find it was a lie....

once boundaries are set then you can have a clearer idea if he can work with you on these things.