Struggling with my relationship
I am in a 12 year relationship. Since two years we decided to try something new and opened to dating other people. It all went pretty well for my partner, and I was and am absolutely happy for them. But I start noticing that I find myself less and less "needed". As of lately I feel like I just observe life as it happens to others, but I don't experience it myself. And yes often I see a lot of drama and negative emotions, but I on the other hand don't feel anything but loneliness. If anyone is open to talk, please drop a message, thank you for talking your time to read this
@Eugene1640
I am sorry you are going through this.
Sadly in all my friends and close people adding someone i have yet to see in real life helping.
Far too IMO many end up like you as feeling left out as the other two bond with each other.
Thank you for the kind words, it really helps
One thing that also changed, is that I am always wrong or am doing something wrong. I don't think this is related to the poly thing, because I am never compared to anyone.
Due to some circumstances my partner is not completely financially independent at this point in time and I fear that this leads to a feeling of resentment and being trapped in an relationship they do not feel happy in.
A lot of things that are "wrong" with me are kind of part of my personality, and therefore feel rather painful.
Could I ask what brought you to the open relationship?
Our like became routine and it felt more like being roommates. This added the needed excitement, and honestly it was very helpful in this regard
That’s so serious you can dm me we can talk about it