Take time or jump to solve the problem
Reference to the post anxiety! Dont know what to do.
I have citied the main issue now i need you opinion what the best way to deal with it.
Currently we are havinn financial and job related issue its kind of urgent in nature. As we are single income family. I have already clearly tel him my concerns. But now this new problem arise. I was planningn to have a detail discussion in a week. But woth this new job issue. I dont know is this the right time or not. Outisde stress is too much.
If i decide to wait till this urgency solves it will be too late to solve the problem? With all the wait. Does it gives this impression that im fine with all this.....
@Theamani
The job and income is urgent and needs to be dealt with.
I think you can show or express you are not OK with the other problem....... and it is still on the list of things to do, even if the new crisis needs to be dealt with first.
The reality is there will never be the "right" time to have uncomfortable conversations. Some partners like mine come up with a another problem or stretch out a crisis to put the discussion off.
okay you are right. its a good idea to Give this headup that we need to talk after this crisis.
@Theamani
I personally would have the talk sooner rather than later, if it's causing you so much distress!
Then it'll be easier to focus on solutions, moving forward and you won't be carrying this extra anxiety around!
Good luck with it all, genuinely 💕💜
I did have initial talk. He said he is feeing guilty and it wont happen again. And he said he will work on himself.
But my stance was why it happened at first place. There is lacking in our relation from both sides. during our lat conversation he said dont worry we will find some solution. And this morning the crisis happens. he is soo stressed so i am.
I know im not perfect but if a partner lack in something other is not suppose to fill this gap with another person intentional or non intentional. In his case it takes 2 years. Like slowly. A co worker became friend and then she is acting like she is in a relationship. I told him to stop talking he agreed before i sense it.... but again he continue to talk to her. Sharing stuff, Because he think its nothinng of this sort.
This is what he did. Instead of talking to me.