WHY??
Why do we continue trying with our spouses, when they clearly have said mean hurtful things? And why don’t we believe them when they say things out of anger? How do we know how they truly feel if they won’t even talk to us? I’m feeling lost, confused, and surely almost to my breaking point???
@FeelinglostinAZ
We may keep trying out of feelings we have or because we have lots to lose in the dissolution of things... we remember things as better. we can all say mean things when stressed and angry when a marriage is failing both sides feel it even if someone acts like they do not.
learning to talk or communicate effectively is harder when things are not going well... but when we do talk effectively maybe we find small items that still work in the relationship and can build on that.
counseling may help or just being able to be extremely honest and not accusing... it is hard i have been there .... i found "i feel " statements worked better. They cannot dispute how we feel.
I think we continue because we care more about them than we care about ourselves.
It's easy to forget the hurt they have caused when you love someone.
