What am I doing wrong?
Ima start from the beginning it’s gonna be abit much so please take the time to read it.
I was engaged to this girl, we were pretty happy had our flaws but everyone does? We did everything together. She had lost her job an threatened to kill her self. I stayed an made sure nothing happened cause I genuinely care. She cried I was there. People turned their backs on her I was there. As of recently I did some things I wasn’t proud of Im not tryna make my self seem perfect. I never cheated. I said some things that she has said as well an Im the bad guy? Sunday she screamed at me I need space then went back to her house. I tried my best to apologize an so on. Before I get any further Friday I caught her cheating with a ex. I still chose to forgive that. We had a 2 hour conversation an I thought we made progress. Guess I was wrong. Any way, she goes back home. Won’t answer me won’t do anything. Messages me a couple hours later saying i think im having a miscarriage. My heart broke even more. It was gonna be my first kid. She didn’t comfort me I tried to comfort her. No answer again. Couple hours pass by i try to message her saying “im sorry for everything we went through but I don’t wanna give up” now here comes what I like to call a twist. She calls me, calls off the engagement says Im having a guy stay the night right after having a miscarriage. I feel some kind of hurt cause I genuinely tried to make sure she was ok. Even when no one else would. I should add she does live with her parents an the guy was supposedly staying in the room next to hers. However I feel some level of anxiety an disrespect cause I’ve been nothing but straight to the point. I looked after her daughter as my own I made sure she was always ok. But where did I go wrong? Im trying my hardest to understand. But maybe I just can’t?
@lostcompletely0101 I am so, so sorry you had to go through all of that! 💔 It looks to me like she has been dragging you through the mud a bit. Sure, we can acknowledge the pain she was feeling too, but you matter just as much as she does. You were going through it all with her. She should have been more understanding and patient.
Now, I don't know the full context. I only have your side of the story. However, if she isn't willing to give you the love and care you gave her, then you can do much better. You deserve better than to be used and discarded and demonized. 🩷
Thank you, just feel abit lost because of how much I care for her, not Im just sitting here wondering what I did wrong after all this time. Idk just feel like crap can’t sleep at all any more.
@lostcompletely0101 That is a natural response I think. I would be wondering the same in your shoes. And so far, to me, it sounds like you didn't necessarily do anything wrong. I could be missing crucial details, but I don't want to judge anyone too quickly.
And I think some people just either don't know how to handle stress, or they cause drama for an end goal.
It's not the same, but I used to have to deal with someone very toxic to me who would be sweet to other people until she either got tired of them or didn't need them anymore. Your description of the situation kind of reminded me of her.
So the basic things I did wrong I’ll admit, I said some very rough stuff. However when she did the same thing I forgave her an made sure she was ok. I do it a now Im the bad guy who gets thrown to the side? I treated her like gold overall even her daughter i treated like my own. When she officially became divorced she had a considerable amount of debt i never looked at her different I wanted to help pay it off. But all of the good memories seem to be pushed away an only the negative seem to be shown.