narcissistic ex boyfriend
i didn't really know where to put this but im really looking for help or someone to talk to about my past relationship, i was in a year long relationship with a guy who was a narcissist but i didn't know at the time until it was too late, a lot of things happened in that relationship and i feel like it sometimes still effects me to this day but i haven't gotten therapy for it and i really wish i had one right now because today is one of those hard days, im currently in a really happy relationship with my boyfriend and he has done absolutely nothing wrong but he doesn't understand how certain things he says can trigger me to shut down because it reminds me of the past, i feel like im just a different person in a relationship now, i try my best to show that i dont care even though i do because with my narcissistic ex i was all in and i would literally spill my heart out to him which i dont do with my boyfriend now, i have a few times and i think im getting better but i still feel like theres this thing that happened in my life, i told my loved ones, and they all just expected me to move on and i know it doesnt work liek that because no matter how much i try i still have these days where i just close everything out. if someone has advice please let me know.
@sunnyNest347
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Sounds like you may have PTSD. I feel it... I have it too *hugs*
Hey , you can text me if you want to. I am there for you )
Hey , you can text me if you want to. I am there for you )
You can message me if you need to too. I just learned that this type of abuse is a combination of PTSD and trauma and there’s been very little studied in it. The ptsd creates problems with us and how we understand and perform in relationships, we actually have skewered perspective and relations especially if you were also abused as a child. I’m starting to understand it a little. Message me if you need too.
@sunnyNest347 on the one hand you say he was a narcissist and give the impression that you were being taken advantage of. On the other, you mention not having the same openness with your current boyfriend. I would take a plunge and guess that in a way you miss your previous relationship just without all the drama.
Im going to take another plunge and assume that you have come to the awareness that you will never have that satisfying experience with your current bf but you feel that given all the previous drama in your past relationship this is the lesser of the evils.
I get you. I've been there too. Oh, how I miss my past relationship! There is no good answer to this issue. But if you want to message me we can talk about it.