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why can't i let go?

User Profile: Phoebeandthebagpipes
Phoebeandthebagpipes March 16th, 2025

Someone i met last year had a really big impact on me, even thought the romance was very much whirlwind and brief.

It was brief because i ended it over text in a panic. It was stupid of me, but what's done is done.

For about 6 months after it ended, i thought about him non-stop, all day, and night. I cried often and was low in mood. I lamented over what could've been, had i not ended things.

I've since deleted and redownloaded the app we used to talk with eachother on several times, deleting my original account in an attempt to force myself to move on. But ofcourse, i still remember his username, and search it every so often, seeing if he's online, then daydreaming about reconnecting with him, before closing the app to try and get back to reality and carry on with my day.

Today, 9 months since we last spoke, i've actually added him, because i couldnt hold back anymore.

I'm hoping he doesnt accept the friend request, because maybe this rejection is the thing i need to finally get over it. We'll see..

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User Profile: JEOtheAose
JEOtheAose March 17th, 2025

@Phoebeandthebagpipes if you love him let him go, but if its true love, he'll come back

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User Profile: Phoebeandthebagpipes
Phoebeandthebagpipes OP March 17th, 2025

you're right, thank you

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User Profile: Bthompson
Bthompson March 17th, 2025

@Phoebeandthebagpipes I need help 

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User Profile: Phoebeandthebagpipes
Phoebeandthebagpipes OP March 17th, 2025

hi, how may i help?

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User Profile: Shyness98
Shyness98 March 17th, 2025

@Phoebeandthebagpipes

Oh man, I know the feeling. I don't have the best advice, but I wish to tell you that you're not alone in this. Be kind to yourself and try not to lose yourself in regret. If you believe there's a chance for rekindle, go for it. If not there are going to be opportunities to come and take this as a learning lesson. I wish you the best. 

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User Profile: Phoebeandthebagpipes
Phoebeandthebagpipes OP March 17th, 2025

at one point i definitely wondered if this feeling of regret would ever pass.

thankfully it is, slowly.

And yes, i agree with you, lessons to be learned from this indeed..

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User Profile: Phoebeandthebagpipes
Phoebeandthebagpipes OP March 22nd, 2025

Update 22 March:


He's accepted the friend request 😳


Also, he's replied 😳


However, he hasnt worked out it's me from my message 🤦🏾‍♀️


I don't know what to do



User Profile: Phoebeandthebagpipes
Phoebeandthebagpipes OP March 22nd, 2025

Last update on this matter - eveving of 22nd March:


I have deactivated my account on that app, and uninstalled it on my phone for good.

I'm determined not to look back. It's not healthy.

(deep breath in and out)

Thank you all who have advised in this thread. It's really helped me accept this.


Hugs 🫶🏾