An insecurity one can have in romantic relationship is..

I think my insecurity would be that ican be really moody at timez and i am really straight fw. People dont like that often

Not trusting that a new partner would treat you well throughout the entire relationship

Not being enough.

they don't really love you for you. they love the thought of you being around so they aren't alone.

That you are not good enough. Or they will leave and abandon you

That I am the root of some problems. I don't like being the reason for some of our issues, but I obviously can and will be.

Hello there. I know this is a bit of an old thread, but how are you now my friend? I understand how you feel as I'm going through the exact situation. I'm in an LDR too. Nevermets. 8000+ kilometers between us and absolutely different cultures. She is bisexual and I'm the first guy that she ever dated.

I was recovering from a previous relationship which was very toxic and my ex cheated on me twice, And I haven't been in a relationship for over 4 years until I met this girl. But months after the relationship, my past trauma started flooding back, lots of insecurities about no matter what I do, she would one day cheat me and leave me, that I'm not good enough for her, and uncertainties about the future. And when I was single, one of my defense mechanisms was not trusting anybody. And being in love with this person and not be able to trust them made my life hell. I was in a happy relationship where I wasn't happy. My mind was picking up every single thing that didn't go according to what I expected and started making assumptions.

She is also introverted. And sometimes doesn't sound very interested. But she can be a very curious and friendly person who got both male and female friends who she is very friendly with. This gives me lots of anxiety.

I told her how I felt, about my insecurities and my lack of trust. this is a must. " Tell them how you feel. Do not hold anything back". And told her that I might need a break until I fix myself. I think my love stems from a very dark place. A place of insecurities, low self-esteem, lack of trust, and all the ugly things. And my world was, and still revolving around her. This was not making any progress for me.

I think what you need to do is tell him how you feel straight. and listen to what he has to say. Good people surely understand and will try to make you feel better. sometimes they cannot relate to your feelings but they will "make an effort" look for that effort. If it's there, it's worth fighting for.

And have time for yourself. Sometimes you need to save yourself first in order to love someone else. Do what makes you happy. Have a good life outside of them. Make sure to do at least one thing that will make you grow every passing day. For now, one of my coping mechanisms is hitting the gym every morning and working hard. Because no matter how life would drag you down every day, I feel stronger, I know my physical self is slowly growing. This is enough for me to keep pushing.

Reason with your thoughts. Find the roots. Where do they come from? Is it you? Or do they cause them? let your logical mind handle them. if you feel biased, consult a third party (who are not biased towards you or them). and make yourself understand, sometimes people come to your life to grow you thru pain, some come to you to grow you thru affection. Ask yourself that will you be alright if in the future things might not go right with the relationship. if you scared of it, take a step back, work on yourself.

Sometimes they are not worth it. They don't speak the same language as you. In that case, let them know, bid them farewell. They will feel bad, so will you. But time heals. do not be afraid of what will happen in the future. You will get back on your feet.

Take care of yourself and your thoughts first. We are here to talk with you. Self-love is important. I'm going thru the same thing. And I hope, I will get out of this scary pit that I am in as well. All the power to you, queen.

Sometimes I only believe that my bf likes me is because of my looks. I've always wanted to shave my head or do something crazy with my hair but maybe he won't be attracted to me. When I first told him, he was like hesitant and told me that I should have my hair like it is.

My partner is smart, business man. Tall and Good looking. Maybe thats the reason sometimes i feel si insecure. There's something in my mind that says he cant get another girl better than me. I want to trust him but the way he makes me feel, i dont know

@ASilentObserver One insecurity I have is that I keep comparing myself to my partner's previous girlfriends, and feel that I'm not good enough. Just that thought makes me unbearably childish, immature and pissy. Which is so unlike me, but having a partner who's way more experienced than me, triggers my jealousy in ways that make me disappointed in myself.